- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Sothis will probably be a long post… I apologise in advance. Now my wedding is over and done with and I am 100% happy with how the day went! Of course there was hiccups (the power went out for about 15 minutes and I tell you, I was about to lose my sh$t, luckily we had 3 sparks on hand so 15 minutes was all the time we had by candlelight!) but those little things are just that, little things. my issue after alsaiid and done is with one of bridesmaids.I have known her since high schfriend we are very close, the good friend ship were you can not talk or see each other for months and have a cup of coffee and talk like no time has passed. Anyway, she got married 2 years ago and I was her Maid/Matron of Honor. It was the first time I’d ever been in a bridal party and I was soon excited and honoured! I did everything I possibly could for her! I was there during my lunch breaks helping pick out lollies for favours and stationary. I was there crafting archways making invites going to hire venues… The lot! I also was super sickly sweet nice to her horrible sister( my friend knows the issueven have with her sister and we just deal with it and don’t let it affect our friend ship) for her hens night she told me she didn’t want some big boozy doodle galore night, as she isn’t a drinker etc. so we had a nice dinner with some games and one if the funniest treasure hunts ever (even if I do say so my self! Lol) i took two frays off before her wedding (Saturday wedding) I was with her the whole two days. It was her day and I was her maid! I wanted her to be happy and let her know how special she is to me. The wedding was perfect. It really was. The next day we all went round for a lunch time BBQ said good bye to the happy couple then me and my then boyfriend now husband house sat and looked after their dogs cats and chickens for a week. This is what friends do for each other.fast forward two years and I am at the stage were I don’t answer my phone when I see she is calling me as I don’t rally feel like talking to her so my issues are…
my engagement ring is a solitaire aquamarine, exactly what I wanted and I love it to pieces. Her first comment on the ring, why is it blue? Isn’t it a diamond? I thought Z could afford diamonds??.. Ouch! He can but its not what I wanted and those things shouldn’t count!
When I told her she was a bridesmaid but my sister was Maid/Matron of Honor “oh ok well I’ll still organise everything coz T doesn’t know what it takes.” – I didn’t know what it took when she asked me but I managed! Please don’t insult my sister!
“ill organise your hens, I’m good at organising stuff like that.” I told her that she had to share the load and talk with the other girls about this and that above all else I did not want a tacky hens, no tacky games plastic penis straws silly costumes… I just wanted a good night out… She spent $600 on hens night accessories alone!! I was dressed to the max in pink doodles and made to walk around with flashing boy bitsTithe killer tho is she didn’t tell the other girls about how much she had spent and on what but after the hens wshe sent them the bill… I had a few upset Bridesmaid or Best Man…
she took half a day off to help me before the wedding. Her dad is her boss so getting work off is no issues, it just seemed pointless to her to have her there as well as all the other girls… 🙁
i had told the girls at the very beginning that the night before the wedding I wanted them to all sleep over my house (the place we were getting ready the next day) she never said to me before the Friday that she wasn’t… So Friday night I give her a call to find out we’re she is And she tells me she isn’t coming coz she needs her rest… i had organised to give all the girls their gifts that night, twitch I still handed out but the next day when I gave her hers it just didn’t feel as special.. It was kinda over it
we had to be at the hairdresser at 8 on the dot. 830 and I text her where are you? 10 mins later walks in the door And told me she was feeling a little sick so that’s why she was late. I later find out from husband that he had called her husband so organise the ceremony music and he said that he was at breakfast with his wife. Z says she should be at the hairdressers (his mum, my mIL is the hairdresser so he new what was going on) response was that other girls can be done before her so it doesn’t matter if she is late. …wtf!!!
just before we leave the salon one of the girls asked how much she owes for hair and makeup and I say nothing as I have paid for it all, bad Bridesmaid or Best Man responds with, ” swell it’s not like you paid for the hair seeing as she is you MIL” … I actually did pay for three of the girls hair, discounted rates of course but it was only my hair and my sisters that was free and she never mentioned the $500 makeup bill I paid for her! For her wedding we paid for everything (and happily did!)
my final issue. The day after the wedding it was organised we would have a lunch BBQ at the wedding reception and tidy the place up. All BMs said they would be there to help anthere’s all we’re… Except one. I got a call that night from her apologising but she just didn’t feel up to it but if I need any help tomorrow she will be there..
I know this is a long post and I probably sound like a sooky la la and need to get over it but it just really upset me that my important day seemed to mean zip to her. I put in so much effort for her and I know she appreciated it I just can’t think why she acted like she did… And ( this I know I am sooking) but in most of my wedding photos of me getting ready or what not she was always there ” helping me put on my shoes, helping with earrings, dress, just always right next to me. As if “see I really am I her best friend! I look at the photos and just wish she had let the other girls who seemed to want to be there actually be more involved in the photos. I should have said something but how rudewould it have been to tell her that I wanted someone else next to me Helping me get ready…
Please tell me your thoughts and what I should do. Be as harsh as you want I’m sure I am over reacting on most levels!