(Closed) Bridesmaids issues – after the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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46664 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Was any of her behavior really a surprise to you? Most people don’t undergo a radical personality change when their friend is getting married. Chances are this is what she is like on a day to day basis.

Expecting her to behave like you did for her wedding only led to your obvious disappointment.

Find it within yourself to let it go and move on.

Post # 5
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t want to sound mean here, and PLEASE don’t take this the wrong way, but you either need to let it go, forgive her and move on, or cut her out of your life. You aren’t going to continue to be friends if you let this fester – it will wreak havoc on your relationship because you’ll always be, in the back of your mind, resenting her.

If her behaviour at your wedding and related events was a deal breaker, so to speak, and it kind of sounds like it was (not that I am judging you for that fact – I too would be hurt if someone who I considered to be a good friend pulled stuff like that), just end your friendship. But in all reality, it’s over now, there’s nothing you can do about it, so you have to either accept that it happened and move on, or just let her go as a friend.

 

Post # 7
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It does sound like she was kind of a pain, I’m sorry about that. But honestly, this doesn’t need to still be a problem – your wedding is over and there is nothing about her being a bit of a flake the day of and not giving you the kind of bachelorette party you asked for that is currently affecting anything in your life. You’re totally justified in being annoyed, but bringing it up now or continuing to think back on it is just causing yourself unnecessary stress and drama. You’re married now and you were happy with how your wedding went = focus on that!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ZandZ:  did she suck? maybe, is it over? yep.  can you forgive her? that’s for you to decide. did she do anything that was unforgivable? not in my opinion.

 

 

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