(Closed) Bridesmaid’s jealousy…how to react?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

just ignore what she says…basically smile and nod when she makes one of these comments. if it gets worse, i would confront her, but that could be risky as she might blow up at you. stay on the high road!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

How irritating. Honestly, I’d just stop asking her opinion or including her on anything, then just tell her where to get her dress from when the time comes. Sounds like she’s insecure, and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with her problems.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Stop showing her things. She will never have anything positive or constructive to say to you. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I must say that the hardest thing about wedding planning is the people around you.  All you can do is take it with a grain of salt and count the days down!  Just say to yourself one more month, one more week, one more day.  I know that sounds stupid but you’ll drive yourself crazy reading into every last comment she makes and it will take away your fun that you’re having.  So keep your wedding plans to yourself, share with your Fiance.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would un-bridesmaid her. Seriously. If she isn’t with you, then she is against you, in my opinion. Watch her scowl and act all pissy during the ceremony. Grr.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Wannabe-diy-bride: holy effing crap.  this is MY story.  lol.  to a tee.  6 bridesmaids, and number 6 is FI’s best friend’s gf, who wouldn’t be in it if we didn’t spend so much time together as a couple, and who is insanely jealous and keeps making anything wedding related a sobfest because she isn’t engaged.  in fact, minutes after we told them, she was complaining about how she wasn’t engaged and grabbing all the attention.  can i be Vice President of this support group?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i should add one thing- haven’t officially asked wedding party, but she assumes she is in it and Mr. Meowerson wants her in it, etc.  This is probably the element of my wedding i am dreading the most.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@samara11278: it isn’t that easy though, even though that is tempting as hell, because of the relationship the guys have.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Eh, I would tell my fiance’s best man that you guys love them, but just can’t have her in the wedding for X reason. My fiance’s best man is really level-headed though. I guess you may not be so lucky. 🙁

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

what would X reason be?  i want an out! lol

also, at least in my case, she considers us much better friends than i do.  is that the same with your case, OP?

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We love you guys, but I just can’t have her be a bridesmaid because…

-she’s bringing me down

-I’m worried she will be sad at the wedding and in all of the pictures because she isn’t getting married yet

-she is getting on my nerves

Lol. 😛

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would actually ask her honestly if she really wants to be in your wedding, and give her an out. I have to ask, is this person REALLY your friend? I mean, is this a person you would call if you ever had to be bailed out of jail? Is this someone who would bring you chicken soup when your sick, or rush to your side if you lost someone in your life? Do you have a mutual love and respect for this person? If the answer to any of these questions is no, then why do you want them to stand beside you on the most important day of your life? I do sort of feel bad for her, obviously she wants what you have and she can’t be happy in an ongoing relationship that isn’t giving her the result she really wants. Like I said, sit her down, in person-not on facebook, and ask her if she really wants to be in the wedding and if she doesn’t, graciously let her out.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you have someone that you are better friends with that you can ask to be a bridesmaid, there is your out. If they really pressure you, tell your Fiance and his best man that “Becky” has been s**tting on your wedding from day one and that you don’t want her jealousy and negativity ruining your day. End of discussion.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with Emerald and Sandy. Don’t let her ruin your day for you or stress you out. It is YOUR day.

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