Post # 1
I know there are a lot of these posts, but I just need to vent a little.
My wedding is 6 months away. I need to start getting my bridesmaids in gear with their dresses/trip travel for those who are traveling.
4 of my 6 bridesmaids will be traveling for the wedding. I have heard not a peep from all but one on their plans, so I’m a little worried.
I send out emails to all of the bridesmaids talking about things that directly affect them. Their dresses, styles etc. I ask for their opinions. Nobody responds.
I know its still 6 months away and people don’t really start getting excited until its closer. I just worry that they told me ‘yes’ to being my bridesmaids and just don’t really want to do it. I just really wish they would… y’know respond when I email them. Makes me a little bit sad.
Post # 3
@bonsai_spork: I’m sorry this is happening to you! I would think by 6 months out they would be on board now. Do you have a MOH? If so, is she participating?
Have you tried calling them instead of emailing? Maybe if you talk to them you can find out what’s going on.
Post # 4
@bonsai_spork: I totally agree with @heather5743: try calling instead.. you will get a sense of tone and it will be more personal that way. My BMs have responded well to calling rather than emailing
Post # 5
6 months is still a long time. I mean, for the bride its not because you have so much to do. But for bridesmaids, it seems like a million years away. I would try calling them to talk instead of email.
Post # 6
Yeah, the phone might be a good idea.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is the only one who’s traveling who has shown any intrest, which is good. She saves my sanity.
2 of the others are ‘family obligation’ sort of bridesmaids… one is Future Sister-In-Law, the other is FBIL’s girlfriend… yeah… Future Mother-In-Law invited her, while she was there and … well yeah. I can understand her not really wanting to be involved.. I feel guilty, but I really wish she’d drop out of the wedding. Is that bad?
Post # 7
Ditto on the calling them. Trust me, my wedding is three months away and we just got the dress thing squeared away last month. People don’t really think about how long it takes to work this stuff out. Try getting your Maid/Matron of Honor to rally the troops.
Post # 8
I’ve run into this, too. My wedding is 6 months away and I feel like no one’s stepping up to help or respond promptly to e-mails. I know calling is the most direct way, but e-mailing is much more convenient for me to send pictures or links.
Post # 9
We found the dresses for my bridesmaids the last weekend of March! that’s 7 weeks before my wedding.. and also, they start asking you when it’s closer, do call them and chill out, everything will be ok =)
Post # 10
I’m glad your Maid/Matron of Honor is involved. That’s a good sign. Would she be willing to help you reach out to the other girls?
Of course, I think you should call them first, but then if that’s not working, maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor could start trying to get in touch with them.
I am the QUEEN of emailing, and you are right about being able to share pictures and such. Maybe if you call them first and then you can say, “ok, I found some stuff. I’m going to email it to you today”…or something like that.
And I know what you mean about family obligation! I have one of those as well.
Post # 11
Can you call them and speak to them individually because some people are just lazy with emails
Post # 12
Yeah, the calling will happen, and its so funny to think people are lazy about emails, because I’m the complete opposite, I’m amazingly lazy about phone calls (will avoid at all costs) and EXTREMELY quick about emailing. To each her own but still — ARGH!