- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
So far planning my wedding has been easy and stress free. The only part which has been difficult are my bridesmaids. I’ve known them all a long time and im close with them all. However, I’ve spent many evenings panicked and worried about meeting their needs that its actually getting too much.
My maid of honor has extremely excited when i told her i was engaged but that quickly changed to all out crisis as she felt she wasnt skinny enough to be a bridemaid. I think she looks lovely and found it hard to understand. Since then she has lost over 6stone is 6 months and is determined to be skinner than the other bridesmaids. I have actually not seen much of her recenlty as she finds it hard to make time to see me due to “pre wedding excerise plan”. She was also very vocal about her dislike of coloured bridemaid dresses and insisted in a long black on for our summer wedding. After months of seeing her shed pounds, she looks even lovelier and has chosen a blue dress that looks great and matches the other bridemaids. She still claims its not as nice as a black one but is happy to wear it if she “has to” and is disappointed that i wont let her have her black dress especially after she lost all this weight for me.
My other two bridemaids love dresses and have made the choose easy with them all agreeing on a dress they like. They dresses arrived they all tried them and seemed happy. My Mum has gifted me the dresses as a wedding present and has enjoyed being part of that element of the wedding. She worked overtime to pay for them and im extremely grateful.
Since getting the dress two of my bridesmaids have announced they are pregnant (getting pregnant after the dresses) and I’m delighted. However, both now say that the dresses are unsuitable. I’m able to change the dresses to another size and get them altered but not change the style. the dresses are actually empire line so are ideal but both are adiment that they want to now get their own special maternity dresses. If I let them, would I not have to then let my maid of honour have her black dress? How would my Mum feel if they all disgard their dresses for new ones, espcially after everything my mum has done?
I hate this and actually im starting to dread my wedding as im worried that they will be inhappy with the outcome. Not once has any of them asked what I might like. I’ve spent months sorting their outfits and next to no time sorting mine. I feel like a guest at my own day. HELP!