Post # 17
I couldnt’ read the whole thing because I was getting confused. But I understand that one can’t afford the dress? When you accept to being a bridesmaid it’s assumed you will need to pay for your dress. (At least where I live). If she can’t afford it, then too bad so sad. She shouldn’t have said yes to being in your wedding. You’re the bride, you have the say in what they wear. It’s just how it works.
Post # 18
I would honestly not worry about it, and if they don’t get their dresses, they just won’t be in the wedding. Don’t worry yourself with making their lives easier if it isn’t appreciated. If they want to be in your wedding, they will have everything ready. If they don’t do what they need to do, then you know how they feel about you.
Post # 19
paying for their dress is the bare minimum they should be doing. If they are so neglectful that the incure Rush fee’s that’s on them. Don’t put a dime out.
Post # 20
I wouldn’t worry about the rush fee. They’re adults, if they don’t order in time then they will suffer the consequences.
I would pay the extra $16 for the girl who’s short on money. It’s not fair to agree to her budget and then go over it.
Just remember, it will all work out. If they don’t order, they don’t have to be bridesmaids. You’ll still end up married at the end of the day and that’s what’s important. Best of luck!
Post # 21
I paid for my bridesmaids’ dresses. Am I well off? No. Is money tight right now? Yes. But to me, if you can’t afford to pay for the attire, you shouldn’t be having a wedding.
I just don’t understand this “help me out by being in my wedding but pay a bunch of money for the privilege of it.” And yes I have been in other people’s weddings and i had to pay for my dress, but two wrongs don’t make a right.
Post # 22
First off your post was really confusing as you kept talking about #3 being the difficult one but it sounds like you really meant Bridesmaid or Best Man #2. Anyway, I think it’s laughable that it’s ok for you to not be able to afford their dresses, but yet when they can’t afford it then you have a problem. It’s not their fault you aren’t working; you have no clue what circumstances Bridesmaid or Best Man #2 has to deal with that her money could be going towards. You sound very entitled.
Post # 23
My only problem is that they all agreed to everything and then all of a sudden when its time to get going… there’s a problem getting ahold of people. I haven’t re-read my post cause I was upset and rambled so I imagine it is confusing but some of you seemed to udnerstand it. I appreciate the nice comments and or help. I honestly didn’t think though that because I can’t afford much that that means I shouldn’t have bridesmaids. Whatever. The whole $ situation in general just sucks. But she is okay with the price its just getting ahold of her and getting her to go do it in time that’s bothering me. Everything else is fine.
Post # 24
actually I DO know what her money is going towards. I do know she can afford it. I DO know that the $ was fine with her. You can’t say I don’t have any clue. I am a close relative and friend of hers and I DO know her life whereas strangers here do not. This is why I am explaining it- and hopig to get some support or helpful advice 🙂 And honestly.. being a BRIDE.. aren’t I entitled to- well- being a BRIDE! lol.. I mean this is sort of the one time that you do call the shots and obviously as long as you’re not going overboard or asking for anything absurd, isn’t it suppsoed to go as you wish? Not how everyone else wishes? if so, then why doesn’t everyone ELSE plan a wedding? Why should the bride do anything at all or have any say at all if that’s the case?
Post # 25
If its YOUR money, you can call the shots. Not your money, you do not have a say, just because you feel entitled to it as a bride. If you want them there and they are your true friends as you claim, you will make it work, or be patient with them.