- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I’m hoping you can help me out with something. It’s been on my mind non-stop!
I’m really struggling with who to pick as my Maid/Matron of Honor and my Bridesmaids. Throughout my life I have had many close girl-friends, but circumstances – including moving and a few falling outs, have meant that I am much less close to these friends than I once was. Though some of the friendships have been repaired, they are not like they once were.
M – A friend I grew up with and was very close with during my childhood – but we have really not seen eachother or spent much time together since I moved to another city 6 years ago. She has not met Fiance and does not know us as a couple. After talking with her on the phone about my engagement I got the impression that she was jealous (and not in a good way). She always talks about how we are ‘friends for life’ and considers me her sister. She is the closest person I have to a sister but there is so much distance between us now. Currently lives out of town (about 2 hours away and is unemployed)
p – A friend I was very close with in college but had a falling out with. When I met Fiance we starting hanging out again with P and her boyfriend and the four of us meet up at least once a month to hang out. We spend more time together now and go shopping and for coffee every now and then, but we are nowhere near as close as we used to be when we were roommates.
She is also getting married next year as well and I am not sure if she will pick me as one of her Bridesmaids. My feeling is that she won’t.
D – A friend I was also very close with in college. We had a falling out as well but not we talk almost everyday and I am comfortable confiding in her. She knows Fiance and is happy for us and supportive of the engagement. I am confident that she will make a great bridesmaid and want her involved. She lives about an hour away.
A – FI’s sister – she has 3 young children. I have not really spent much time with her outside of hanging out with the kids. I have had a few problems with her, mainly because she can be very stubborn and because I feel like sometimes everything has to revolve around her. Of course, she does have 3 young children which I’m sure is very stressful and I understand that they come first.
As I mentioned before, I’ve had many other close friends throughout my life, but have lost touch with them so completely that I’m not considering them. I’m also an only child with very little family that lives in this country (they are not coming to the wedding).
A few weeks ago I was confident that all 4 would be in the bridal party (with still no idea of who to be the MOH)
Now I am not sure.
The wedding will be small (35 people) and I know that right now Fiance is thinking about having 3 groomsman (but I am 90% sure I can talk him into an alternative arrangement – i.e only having a Bridesmaid or Best Man – as he is very easy going about the whole thing)
Do I go with –
a) only a Maid/Matron of Honor – if so, how do I choose?
b) some of the ladies mentioned above – if so, how do I choose?
b) all of the ladies mentioned above
c) Or none of the above and get my mom to be my witness?
I would appreciate any input – thanks so much Bees!