- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
this is my first post here and I need some advice on bridesmaids. Here’s the situation: I am from Europe originally, where people never get to be bridesmaids typically, so when I told my 3 gfs from college (one of whom I am really close with) about the wedding, they all three immediately sort of invited themselves to be bridesmaids. They’re just so excited at the idea since they never get to do this at home. Needless to say, this wasn’t planned and I had originally only envisioned one of them but I couldn’t muster up the courage to tell the other two no, so I went along with it. Needless to say, they won’t be there until the wedding itself but that’s not the problem. I have a full service planner and don’t really care if they’re at the shower or bachelorette party.
I have 2-3 friends here where we live that I am close to so those are big on the list, and they’re the only ones who could actually organize anything since they’re the only ones living here.
My two best and oldest friends, though, live across the country and in Europe respecitively. Both already married, one will robably be pregnant around the time of my wedding, it could be the second trimester.
Then there’s my fiance’s sister (also across the country) and she just had a baby last month, also married. We barely know each other. I’ve hung out with her 4 times total since I’ve been with him. We get along great but she wasn’t on my list simply because I barely know her. There’s been no indication from his mom that they expect her to be in the wedding but then also, his mom hasn’t really given any indications so far on anything. Also note that I am having an adult-only event, so she’ll have to get a babysitter for the wedding already (not sure she’ll be up to the bridesmaids task with these considerations in mind).
To keep my sanity, my original strategy was to only use my single friends so my two other friends and his sister wouldn’t feel snubbed as they’re all three married. My best friends totally understand and don’t really care
So just my single friends (3 from here that I am close and 3 from Europe that are kind of set in stone already) would make 6 already (note that my wedding is only around 75 people).
Is the single friends strategy reasonable or will people think that’s rude? As I said, my best friend from Europe doesn’t care and neither does the one across the country. I am just worried about the sister a bit.