Post # 1
Hi there fellow bees. So I am starting to think about a ceremony and am coming across the bridemaids issue. As an Encore, this is still my first wedding, as I was just married with the first. Is it custom to have bridemaids? What have or are you all doing?
Post # 3
I am getting married for the second time in September. I am a widow, and my first marriage was a very small wedding, just my mom and dad, and his mom and our daughter in our living room. This time, I am going all out with the wedding of my dreams, white dress, etc. I am having my 12 year old daughter as my Maid of Honor, and my 2 sisters as my brides maids. I see no reason why not. It is your day, you do as you want. If you want some best friends or sisters to stand up with you, then do it! Celebrate your new found love the way you want to. That’s how I feel about it. Congrats to you, and I hope you have the wedding of your dreams.
Post # 4
I was just married before too. I am treating this as if my previous relationship never happened. I think you should have the wedding of your dreams.
Post # 5
I was married in 1996 and divorced in 2001. I had a fairly large wedding, paid for by my parents.
I am now 40 years old, my fiance is much younger and it’s his first wedding. He wants to go all out. This wedding will be much bigger and more expensive and we’re paying for it ourselves.
I’m having 5 BMs because my fiance wants a large bridal party. I will have my 12-year old daughter as my Maid/Matron of Honor, my two best friends (that were also in my first wedding), my sister (also in my first wedding) and fiance’s sister.
Honestly, these days, it’s really whatever you want. It’s your special day.
Post # 6
I think I just need to get him to tell me what he is thinking and see if we are even on the same page. We had a friend over last night, the lady that set us up on the blind date….and she asked him who of his friends would be ‘standing up’ with him. She was in attendance at his last wedding. He looked at me and said, not sure, CurlyRN and I need to figure out what we want to do.
I fear he is thinking this is just going to be something very small, which I am fine with small, but something not important. I have bought the bridal mags, picked colors….I am really getting excited.
Post # 7
You can still have the wedding you want, on a small scale. When my SO and I get married, it’ll be his first wedding, so we’re going to do it up right. Colors, flowers, cake, the dress, etc. But it’ll be on a smaller scale. Instead of 8 bridesmaids, I’m having 2. Possibly 1, depending on who all flies up from Brazil for the wedding (where he’s from). Don’t let size scare you away 🙂
Post # 8
i’m a widow, not a divorcee, so i can’t really treat the last relationship like it never happened. my first wedding was tiny. we went to gatlinburg, TN and got married there. i wore a dress that i made, and there was flowers and a nice photographer, but the guest list was 6 people long, including the (two) attendants. literally, my parents and sister, and Darling Husband1’s parents and brother. count us, the officiant, the photographer and her daughter, and there were 11 people total at the event itself. our “receptions” (one for his family in MI, one for my family in NJ) were little more than catered picnics, altho we had a nice tiered cake at the MI reception.
this will be FI’s first wedding (hopefully the last one for me and only one for him), so i’m sort of letting him take the reins. he still wants to keep it small, but bigger than the last one. i will probably buy a dress, there will probably be closer to 30 people there. so far, the only person he’s shown interest in having stand up with him is his brother. for this wedding, i’d probably have my best friend stand up with me, if he only has his brother. if he decides on having two people stand with him, i’ll ask my sister again. i only pick my best friend over my sister this time because the dynamics of my life and relationships with family and friends has changed so much since Darling Husband1 died. my sister was the closest person to me who had been there since the beginning of my and Darling Husband1’s relationship. my best friend has been my lifeline over the past year, and new about Fiance as soon as i started talking to him. my sister didn’t know till i met him in person a month later. it’s just very different.
Post # 9
My second wedding will have a huge wedding party. If it makes you happy do it!!