(Closed) Bridesmaids… not a complaint post!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, I don’t know that there is a good way to do it. There’s really no way for her to not know that she’s your second choice. Maybe just try to emphasize how important she is to you and spend some time with her?

Post # 5
Member
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@abbie017:  Oh, bummer!  But, how exciting for your bestfriend!  I wish I had some “words of wisdom” for you in this situation.  Maybe mention that if your fiance’ would’ve chosen 5 fellas that she would’ve definitely been the 5th bridesmaid.  Stress to her that you’d be honored to have her join the wedding party!

Post # 6
Member
1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@abbie017:  So how did it go – di you speak to your friend?

Post # 7
Member
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I probably wouldn’t replace her, just but something in the program ab M as “honorary” bridesmaid or whatever and leave it at that. Its bad form to “replace”. Honestly, its no big deal if sides are uneven.

Post # 10
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Why did you not ask this other girl in the first place? Was it because of symmetry? 

Even if it wasn’t, let’s say it was. Just tell her it stinks that your Bridesmaid or Best Man dropped out but now you’re really excited because you have the space to ask her! Yes, she’ll know she’s #5 on your list, but at least it doesn’t make it sound like a obligatory ask.

Update: Oops, I just read your latest post and I’m so glad it worked out. It sounds like we had the same idea! 

Post # 11
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@abbie017:  I’m glad it went well for you. It sort of says to her though that originally having equal Bridal Party members was more important to you then having her stand up in your wedding and more important than your friendship with her. It worked out for you but sorta stinks that she now knows she’s “#5”. This is probably why they say not to ask your Bridal Party til 6-9 months out, things change.

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