- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I need to vent. Just to give a little background, when I first got engaged, I only wanted my 3 sisters and 1 friend in my wedding.. WELL it’s 10 months later and 5 months to go to the wedding and I have 9 BRIDESMAIDS!!!
OK.. with that large number.. you only get MORE problems. I love all of the girls in my wedding BUT they are not communicating with me.
I’m very very detailed when it comes to planning, but my first mistake was, letting my sisters take their time picking out a dress they like.. this is a lesson learned!! I thought because I was out of state, I would let them go and find a dress together because they all leave in the same state.. well.. PROBLEM. I told them in AUGUST to start looking for a dress BUT they didn’t go till NOVEMBER!!! not only that, they feel in LOVE with at $214.00 dress!!!! HUGH PROBLEM.. because I has in 2 wedding THIS YEAR IN 2010 and I know how it is to be a bridesmaid, so I didn’t not want an expensive dress, especially with out of state bridesmaids. So I went home and went to the bridal shop with them and they just couldn’t get over the $214.00 dress. Not only that, they didn’t even want to try on the dress styel that I liked!!! But fine.. so they like the $214.00 and it is beautiful, so I emailed my 2 out of state bridesmaids, showed them pictures and told them to let me know asap if they were ok with the price and if they like the dress.. NOTHING!!! I had to call them.. and still didn’t get a “true” answer.. so we went with this dress because time was running out.
So this is the end of November and the bridal shop stated that we had to have the dress ordered by the end of DECEMBER (12-30-10) to have in time for my May 1st weddding!!!!! I’m like. OMG.. with Christmas coming up.. i didn’t want to do that to my bridesmaids, so I sent them all emails and texts tell them that we have a tight deadline and if anyone need any financial assistance to let me know and i would pay for the dress and they could pay me back in January. NOTHING. no communication!!!!!!! I even sent some people information about the dress through the US MAIL!!!
So fast forward.. today is December 23rd and the bridal shop called NO ONE HAS COMPLETED THEIR ORDER FOR THEIR DRESS. after 2 emails and reminder texts.. I’M PISSED!!!
so i sent them the following text message today:
“Hey everyone. Got a call from the dress shop again today and out of 9 bridesmaids, no one has completed their order for their dress. I’m asking everyone who wants to participate as a bridesmaid to order your dress by Wednesday of next week December 29th. After ordering your dress, send a confirmation to me that it has been ordered. I will love yall either way if you decide to participate or not. Just let me know”
Was this mean??? I feel like I”m planning an out of state wedding, working hard, but my bridesmaids are just putting me to the back burning. But not I’m feeling back. My sister sent a text back stating “WOW” and haven’t heard back from her. My friend is is MIA and never calls me back, even though i have called her 5 times, sent a text stating “do we have to pay for the dress when we call?”
CRAZY!! but now i’m feeling bad.. but should I?