(Closed) Bridesmaids Not Ordering their Dress!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

What you wrote was honest and fine.  You gave them an opportunity to opt out if they needed to.  I did not find it mean at all because you didn’t demand that they do it … just asked and gave a wide berth on being able to back out if they needed to.

I”m not quite sure why your sister posted WOW as there was nothing that was “attacking” them. 

While it stinks that nobody didn’t do anything as of yet, I think you handled it well.  Giving your bridesmaids the opportunity to back out was nice of you. 

Post # 4
Member
31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had a smaller, similar problem! I think you had the right to say what you said, hell if I had to deal with that, my text would have been alot meaner! Haha. You have done far more than I would have for them (specially since they cant even return a phone call), and you offered to pay for the dress and allow them to pay you back after the hoildays! They couldnt ask for a nicer bride!!! They need to start talking to you and remembering that it is their job to do anything they can to take the stress off of you, not add more to the list!!!! Honestly, they need to get their act together!!! Hope things get better!

Post # 5
Member
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I had this problem too, and I handled it in a similar fashion. I’m getting married March 26th and all my girls needed to order by December 3rd at 12pm for the dresses to come in time. I called, emailed, and texted everyone to let them know they had to get measured and get those dresses ordered by noon! Everyone came through, one girl ordered late but paid the rush fee (she was a special case since she’s trying to get pregnant) and now all orders are officially in! Your girls will do it if they want to participate, and I don’t feel that you were mean at all. You can always tell them the alternative is to pay a fee to rush their dress!

Post # 6
Member
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@lubinandjess – I can see why you’re frustrated.  Sometimes it can get tough when your friends and family don’t respond as quickly as you’d like.  I had one Bridesmaid or Best Man that I almost had a “fallout” with because she was such a slacker.  I think your text was appropriate.  You let them know that there was a sense of urgency, but also gave them an out.  Good luck!!!

Post # 7
Member
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think your text was too mean at all.  That’s the kind of attitude you need to take to make people realize that they NEED to get this done or else none of the dresses will come in on time and it will screw with all your plans. 

Post # 8
Member
249 posts
Helper bee

This happens all the time for one reason or another so don’t feel too bad. Another thing you can do is contact the bridal shop and ask them if they wouldn’t mind making a few follow up phone calls directly to your bridesmaids, trust me they want the order just as much as you do so they will most likely be glad to help out. I have found that most bridesmaids will place their orders when they are being contacted by the bridal shop. Best of luck!

Post # 10
Member
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ll say don’t worry about it if they don’t order their dresses they are not in the wedding period. I had the same thing happen and I was paying for the dresses! I gave everyone a deadline and only 2 out of 5 ordered as soon as I sent the email. Mind you one of the 2 lives overseas. As time got closer I sent everyone a reminder email and told them the same thing you did and it all worked out. I couldn’t believe how long it took the girls to order even though they weren’t paying and they didn’t need to go in just email or call in your measurements if they can’t go in.

Post # 11
Member
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Your first problem is that you are relying on impersonal technology to get a message to them. CALL THEM and ask what is going on. Do not use text messages, emails, or Facebook.

 

 

Post # 13
Member
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it is wrong they did not respond but also you are picking a $214 dollar dress. Some of them may not be able to afford that  I bet if it was a $100 dress they would of all ordered their dresses already.  If you really want that dress you should offer to help pay for it. I picked an $130 dollar dress and one can’t pay for it so Im splitting the cost with her. Basically I don’t know why you are listening to your sisters and letting them pick the dress your the bride and should tell them what you want.

Post # 14
Member
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ah, ok, so you did the personal convo. So, I’m guessing it is the cost of the dress, and they are afraid to tell you? $214 is a LOT for a bridesmaid dress. But, you are right, they have an obligation as well. I think instead of calling them and asking when they are going to do it, you should call and tell them each you are very concerned and WHY haven’t they done it yet?

Post # 15
Member
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I shoudl add…it is a lot for a dress, esp. at this time of year! That is why they are asking you if they have to pay now. December is a tight time for a lot of folks. i would not want to buy a dress right now. But, if they have had a lot of time to budget for it, I guess that is no excuse.

Post # 16
Member
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Every time I read one of these posts, I’m so glad I did not have a bridal party.

Good luck!

The topic ‘Bridesmaids Not Ordering their Dress!!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors