Post # 1
First things first: I thought I had done a good thing. I picked a color (DB’s Apple) and asked the girls to pick the dress that made them feel the most sassy because they’re so differently shaped. I thought that, because they’re each in different time zones and it’s impossible to get each of them here to dress shop that they could do the whole DB thing in their respective cities and voila!
Turns out that the designers at DB don’t see fit to create a dress that will fit my smoking hot Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s about 6′, and probably wears a bridal 30/32.
So she picked out a dress she “thinks will match” from another site. This makes me nervous. Like WAY nervous. I tried not to be all “no. not happening.” but I’m not entirely sure I was successful. I found another line (Lovelie) that would look AWESOME on her, but then what about the other two? Do I just resign myself to the fact that NOT ONLY won’t the dresses match, the colors won’t match either?
If I have to resign myself to that fact, is it okay if I cry a little?
Post # 2
I’ve seen MOHs wear not only different styles but different colors. You could do various shades of your main color and have the other girls wear different shades as well. That way it looks like the dresses aren’t supposed to all match on purpose. I think as long as you find some sort of unifying element in the dresses it will be ok.
Post # 3
mrswho: it’s your wedDing. I don’t think you should resign yourself to anything. you seem to be more thanaccommodating
Post # 4
mrswho: I feel for your Maid/Matron of Honor. My sister is 6′ and only a size 8 and hardly anything at DB was long enough for her (most of their bridal wasn’t long enough for me, either. And a disgustingly small amount of their dresses can be ordered in extra length. Way less than other stores we went to. To make matters worse they’d put us in dresses only to say ‘Well, I’m not sure that can be ordered in extra length.’ Well what’s the point then?)
Apple is a great colour. 🙂 I’m doing red as well. Have you thought about going with another designer (Alfred Angelo does a number of dresses in the same fabric, so does After Six. And they both have a nice size range, and extra length. :P) I wanted to do the same thing you’re doing, pick a colour and a designer and let the girls choose the dresses they liked best. I was out voted by my BMs who’ve all decided to match. And my groomswoman is in the same dress in black. Whatever, I absolutely love the dress they chose and it looks fabulous on all of them (they all have very different heights, body styles and weights.)
I don’t think you should ‘settle’ right away. Keep looking with them, even if its online.
Post # 5
She’s the Maid/Matron of Honor. It’s totally fine for her to wear a different dress/different color. We all need to remember that on no other occasion in our lives do we demand that our friends all dress alike. The wedding will go ahead just fine with her in a different dress.
Post # 6
Instead of her trying to match, have her get a different color on purpose. There’s no way that these reds are going to match. Red is a very picky color. Since she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor, it would be fine for her to have a different color, like the PP said.
Post # 7
I agree with the people who say that your Maid/Matron of Honor can wear a different and be fine. That actually happens a lot, and it’s a great way of making her distinct.
Post # 8
Ive seen it before so nany times, where the Maid/Matron of Honor has a different shade of the same color family. When my mom and dad got married, she only had 3 bms, Maid/Matron of Honor included. They all wore a lavender type purple, but the MOHs was a shade or 2 darker. It looks fine.
If your OCDness is buzzing, give them all the same jewelry and shoes so something “matches”
Post # 9
I had this situation for a previous (ultimately canceled) engagement. I literally had a range from under 5 feet +under 100 lbs to over 6 feet and 400+ lbs. And to top it off we had a mixture of races/ethnicities. I told my wedding photographer: Good luck getting us to look cohesive! Ultimately, I had to have my mom make the dresses herself….