(Closed) bridesmaids or not?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Bridesmaids don’t help with anything wedding related other than mentally supporting you.

I decided to have bridesmaids because I have friends who have been there for a lot of happy times and upsetting/stressful times. They have always supported my relationship and cared about both me and my fiance. I couldn’t imagine getting ready for my wedding day without these girls by my side. I’m much less stressed knowing that if something goes wrong the day of (photographer is late, flowers don’t show, etc) I know these girls will cheer me up. 

The only thing that my bridesmaids are doing is planning a bachlorette and shower, but they chose to do that. Not every bridal party will be interested in doing that. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

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rvrmtn10 :  We actually decided against having bridal party for our wedding. We want a relatively small wedding and we don’t have a lot of close friends where we live. It will help us save on funds and the stress of having to pick anyone. But then again, a bridal party can offer support and opinions when you need! 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

We didn’t have a bridal party and I’m really happy we made that decision. There was no worry about dresses or accessories or anything like that. My mother pitched a fit about my not having bridesmaids, so I compromised and had my siblings escort her to her seat. I handed my bouquet to my sister who sat in the front row so that worked out well. We just didn’t see a need for a bridal party, really.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I’m not having bridesmaids and I’m extremely happy with my decision. There are so many positives (you don’t have to worry about offending anyone, don’t have to worry about their outfit, you don’t have the added expenses involved, you don’t have any bridesmaid drama) and literally no negatives. My girlfriends are still going to get ready with me and we’re still going to have an amazing evening. Only difference is they don’t have to awkwardly stand up the front in an outfit I’ve chosen for them. Win-win!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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rvrmtn10 :  I decided just to have my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor and my Fiance is having his best friend as best man and that is it. I have two sets of girlfriends and it was proving to be too tricky, plus it was really going to ramp up my costs. When I told two of my friends that they would have been asked but I am just having my sister, they said thank god! I don’t think anyone wants to wear matching dresses!  I know my friends will support me and offer to lend a hand regardless of status as “just a guest”

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would say the pros and cons would really depend on you and what you are looking for.. We decided to have a bridal party because we wanted one. My bridesmaids have been great for support on decision making, general planning etc and my Maid/Matron of Honor is planning my bachelorette and helping with my shower (her choice) they will also be getting ready with me the day of… with that said, these are all things they would have done regardless. When my Maid/Matron of Honor got married, she had too many cousins and friends that had she had all of us, it would have been crazy, so she had her sister and that was it. I still threw her shower and assisted with other things…so it is really up to you!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I opted not to have bridesmaids. I had bridesmaids for my first wedding and it was more drama than it was worth for me. It’s been so much more relaxed this time around not having to worry about bridesmaid this or groomsmen that. In addition, I would have had a really hard time only picking a few friends to stand up with me – I don’t feel like I have to prioritize my friends and possibly hurt some of their feelings by simply choosing not to have any bridesmaids.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

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MsBeer :  We have the exact same set up and for the same reasons! It makes things so easy having one bridesmaid too as once we find a dress that fits and that she likes then that’s it. Dont need to worry about anyone else or conflictiong opinions or anything. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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cosimaskye :  Exactly, I’ve told my sister she can basically what she wants, I want her to look and feel great and as I only have to please her it takes the pressure off!

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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rvrmtn10 :  Don’t do it! I would be SO much happier and have so much less stress if I had opted out of having wedding parties. Good luck!!

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