Post # 1
hello I was wondering what you are having your bridesmaids pay for? I was thinking of getting them to pay for their dresses and then I’ll pay for their hair and makeup, jewlery etc. but I read another post on Facebook about how we shouldn’t make them pay for their dress as they are in my wedding.
Post # 2
I think it all boils down to what us normal within your social circle. In my culture the bride pays for the dresses however none of my bridesmaids share the same culture. Ha. Two of my bridesmaids are financially strapped so I paid for their dresses. I offered to pay for the other two but they said it was fine and they will pay for it. I haven’t decided on if I will want their hair and make up to be done by a professional. I think it would be nice if you could help pay for part of the dresses. I think your bridesmaids would be grateful for any financial help. I’ve been a bridesmaid a handful of times and I had to pay 2/3 times.
Post # 3
While its traditional in the US to have the bridesmaids pay, I have a really hard time understanding why, because they wouldn’t need a fancy dress if it were not for your wedding.
Post # 4
You will get a lot of differing opinions on this. What I have found is that it depends on where you are – in the UK, for example, it seems to be the norm that brides pay for their bridesmaids attire, whereas US bridesmaids pay for their own dresses.
I live in Australia and, in my experience, the bridesmaids pay for their own attire (usually just the dress but sometimes shoes, too). If the bride wants them to have specific/professional hair or makeup, it is expected that she will pay for it. If these things are at the bridesmaid’s discretion, then it is expected that they will pay for it. Personally, we are hoping to pay for our whole bridal party’s attire (bridesmaid’s dresses, groomsmen’s suits and ring bearers’ suits) but we are fortunate that this should work with our budget.
Post # 5
As PPs have pointed out – this is largely a cultural thing and you will get a wide range of responses to this based on where people are from.
I’m in Melbourne, Australia and I have paid for my bridesmaids’ dresses (similarly we are paying for the groomsmen’s suit hire). They will be paying for their own jewellery and shoes (but they are allowed to wear whatever they want and some are wearing items they already own). We are fortunate enough that we have some hairdressers and make up artists in the family and bridal parties, so they have all offered to help each other with hair and makeup so nobody has to pay for that.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2016 - Miami
feleader6: I’d say depends on what’s normal where you’re from (I hear in the UK, the bride pays but most places in the US the bridesmaids pay). Also your financial situation, their financial situation, the dress you pick, etc.
I live in Florida where it’s expected the bridesmaids buy their own dress so that’s my mindset. However, if you’re in a position to buy their dresses, it’s a really nice guesture! I wish I could do that for mine. For mine, I did let them choose their own dresses from whatever store they liked (I gave them a color pallate and asked for long dresses), so that helped them stay within budget.
Post # 7
Answers to this are probably going to vary a lot, depending on what the norm is within your location/social circle. I’m in the US, and the generally accepted protocol here seems to be that when you agree to be a bridesmaid, you’ve agreed to pay for your own dress. But the bride usually does take into consideration that her bridesmaids are paying and tries to keep costs relatively low (or chips in if she wants a super expensive bridesmaid dress).
Past that, I personally think you should cover the cost of anything else you require of them (e.g. hair and makeup, jewelry), but that’s just my opinion. I’ve paid those things myself mutliple times as a bridesmaid in the past. It just depends on what everyone’s financial situation is, what you’ve done when you were a bridesmaid in your friends’ weddings, etc.