Post # 1
I am letting the bridesmaids pick their own dress style (I picked the dress company, the colour, the length and dress material) because their ages range from 14-40 and I’d hate to have my older sister look uber-uncomfortable in a strapless dress when I know it’s not her thing.
But one of the b-maids said, “well can we pick out own shoes too?”….what do you think? Can I set the critera – black, X-inch heel or should I let them do their own thing or should I just pick the shoe and they buy their own size???
Post # 3
I am all for it- I say same philosophy for shoes as it was for dresses- pick a color, and a general idea, and let them find what works for themselves!
Post # 3
I let my BM’s pick whatever shoes they wanted because all of their dresses were long and no one would see them anyway!
Post # 4
I think letting them pick their own shoes with some guidelines is fine, so at least they might find something they might wear again! I asked for their opinions though so we could have some sort of consensus before they picked their own shoes 🙂
Post # 5
I would just set criteria on what color or heel height. For mine, I basically told the girls to pick one of the colors that is my theme. I don’t care what height it is. The only thing said wasn’t allowed was flip fllops until the dance.
Post # 6
I voted yes – complete control, but then I was thinking you might want to set a little criteria. I told my girls they could get whatever yellow shoes they wanted. Open toe, closed toe, heel, flat, strappy, chunky, whatever…. as long as it was yellow.
Post # 7
I think it’s fair to choose a colour, but I would not choose a height. Everyone’s feet are different, and they are comfortable in different shoes- styles, and especially height. I promise you no one will notice if one of your BMs is wearing a 2 inch heel and one of the is wearing a 2.5″ heel. Let them be comfortable, and choose their own shoe.
Post # 8
I told my girls black dress sandals. I said if the want heels or flats that’s fine, but I would like something strapy. I figure if they are putitng the money up for them, let them pick what they want with-in reason, so they are comfortable and that.
Post # 9
I’m letting my BM’s pick any black shoes they feel comfortable in. My Maid/Matron of Honor has a bad foot so she’ll need to be in flats, another Bridesmaid or Best Man is petite and will probably want heels and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man is fairly tall and not super girlie so I can see her choosing either flats or a kitten heel. I’ve been having such a hard time finding dresses we all like (even with letting them choose their own style!) so at this point I really couldn’t care less what shoes they wear.
Post # 10
I voted to give them criteria to follow so you could at least choose a color. I’m letting my bridesmaids pick their own shoes but I should note that they have long dresses so you won’t really see them. I have a rough time in heels so you might want to think about their shoes before you suggests a heel height. Or maybe you could just say with a heel and leave the height to them or flat.
Post # 11
I agree with @littlecat.
Just pick a color they can all agree on, but I wouldn’t choose heel height. If a bride told me I had to wear a 3 inch heel I’d be pissed (I’m already 5’10, you want me to be taller than the groom?) lol.
Post # 12
Im picking the color and requesting that it have a heel, but the rest is up tp them.
Post # 13
Thanks ladies for all the wonderful responses!
The girls are going to pick their own shoe but base it on criteria that i’ve given them (and if they want to wear flats, they are welcomed to it)….turns out, they all picked the same dress, from a choice of 15 styles, they all picked the same one.
They range in sizes 4 to 18 but the dress is universal to say the least! 🙂
Post # 14
I think you made a great decision! I’m biased, though…I told my girls to wear LBD’s (whatever they want) and “black pumps”…anything with a slight heel is fine, but I wanted them not to be overly strappy and I wanted them to be black. I’m easy!
Post # 15
I’m letting my BMs pick their own shoes, my only stipulation was that they are pewter. I want each girl to be comfortable and hopefully buy something she’ll wear again. Plus I think if I were in a wedding and the bride made us all get 4 inch heels or something I might die!