Post # 1
Im going to make a large box for each of my potential bridesmaids asking them to be in my wedding, then giving them everything they will need. Am i missing anything?
– A tshirt that has “bridesmaid” spelled out in rhinestones
– A personalized wine goblet
– A bottle of wine (Jack Daniels for my MOH) so they can put up with me
– A disposable camera to capture the memories of our journey to the wedding
– A photo book full of pictures from our friendship
– A personalized handwritten letter to her, describing how i feel about her and how much it would mean to me to have her stand by my side on the wedding day
– A small wooden box, painted red, with a white ribbon around it, and a ring pop inside with a little sign that says “Will you be my bridesmaid/Maid of Honor?”
– A brochure describing her expenses, her responsibilities, and the timeline of shopping trips and whatnot
Anything missing that they will need?
Post # 3
@TheSpoons: WOW! I just have to say this kit sounds AMAZING (and expensive! hehe) as well as complete! I think maybe the only other thing would be one of those little emergency sew kits (you know needle, thread, safety pins, band-aid, fashion tape, etc) but otherwise, it sounds awesome!
Well done you! You have some lucky BMs!
Post # 4
If you know they will accept, maybe the contact names, emails, and numbers of the other BMs and other important people like family members?
Post # 5
@TheSpoons: Sounds excellent!
Post # 6
I hate to sound negative because it is wonderful how much thought and effort you have put into this, and 6/8 of them sound brilliant, especially the photo album and handwritten letter. But…
I’m in two minds about the brochure. I hope there’s not much on it, because it sounds a bit like a list of demands. On the other hand, you are commended for telling them about it up front. But personally, I would take the path of not expecting much from them, either in terms of time or money. (e.g. I’m a big believer in the bride buying the BMs’ dresses).
Also the camera, I hope this is for their personal use only, i.e. you don’t necessarily expect any photos back. I would hate to feel obliged to take a set of photos. I would be tempted to skip it.
Post # 7
I have to disagree w/ the PP about the bride buying the BMs’ their dresses. I guess I am very traditional in the role of the BM/MOH and I believe that the BMs are responsible for their own dresses and for throwing the shower, unless someone else is goign it, and bachelorette party. If they can’t afford it, they should mention it from the start and let you know in advance that they can’t be in the bridal party. Therefore, giving them the list of things in advance that you expect is great – if they don’t feel like this is for them, then they can decline. If you feel like your BMs might have a potential problem, then maybe you should have a disclaimer in fine print – something about how you want them to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man, but understand that the expense and responsibility isn’t for everyone and that there are no hard feelings if they decline or if they choose to accept and there are some things they feel like they can’t do/afford, to let you know so that you can help out in any way you can.
Post # 8
Sounds awesome. but I do think the brochure might be a little much. It’s kind of like getting a syllabus from your teacher on the first day of class. I would replace it with everyone’s contact info and then tell them you will e-mail them any important information when necessary.
Post # 9
@futuremrsk18: Sorry I don’t want to start a debate on buying the BMs’ dresses. I’m aware that is the tradition and most girls will be expecting it, it was really just a throwaway line. It was just part of a general comment that I’m a little concerned that a brochure might sound like a list of demands. Of course this all depends on how it’s written, I’m not saying it’s a bad thing. I guess what I’m saying is I like the idea of a list in a brochure, I just hope it’s short 🙂
Post # 10
i got the brochure idea from here, actually, another bride made them for her bridesmaids and got raving reviews from other bees, so i am paraphrasing her idea. Not identical to hers but the same basic use. I am a firm believer that the bridesmaids buy their own dresses because i think they would want to keep them. If we bought them, my Fiance would want them to return the dresses to us and i want to avoid that drama. I cant replace the brochure with contact information, because i have no idea who will accept and who wont. Ill ask my closest friends first, and however many say no i will ask from the others on my friends list. That way there is absolutely no pressure. I want to be upfront with them about how much money they will be expected to pay, i dont have the cash to front them the money for anything.
Post # 11
@TheSpoons: I think it’s an adorable idea. Sounds like you’ve put a ton of thought and effort into this!
Post # 12
Sounds awesome! I just did my bridesmaid boxes as well – here is what I did..