(Closed) Bridesmaids Rant

posted 7 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 4
Member
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow sounds like your BM/sister are really not that supportive when it comes to the wedding stuff Frown.

I don’t know what to say, but I can imagine how that must feel.  The least they could do is help with the dresses and a shower. 

Post # 6
Member
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wish I had some great words of wisdom but sadly, I don’t.

I would be frustrated as well if I wasn’t getting the support I need.

Its not even really much support that you’re asking for… all your asking them to do is wear a dress and its too hard for them to just get that done and paid for.

Maybe you should consider just not having a wedding party at all? Are your sisters your only BM’s? Maybe just keep it small… Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man?

I truly hope that you find some resolve with this. I know family can be frustrating!

Post # 8
Member
134 posts
Blushing bee

It sounds to me like they feel obligated to be your BMs because you’re their sister, but they really don’t want to be.  Their words don’t match their actions at all.  Their actions are screaming: I don’t want or care to be my little sister’s supportive Bridesmaid or Best Man.

The fact that your mom is also frustrated with them is quite telling.  It sounds to me like all you can expect of your sisters is that they will treat your wedding as nothing more than a free vacation for them & their families.

Honestly, I’d be telling my mom to cancel their trips.  If it’s non-refundable maybe the money can be redirected towards upgrades for your wedding/honeymoon.  Or possibly to cover the cost for 2 of your friends to be real BMs for you.

And when your sisters go nuclear that their free vacation on Mom’s dime has evaporated, you can roll your eyes and tell them to relax; it’s no big deal – now they can use their vacation time without being “inconvenienced” for one second by your wedding. 

I’m sorry your sisters are such selfish b!tches.

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