(Closed) bridesmaids standing out in cocktail dresses?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: do you like the option to have your bridesmaids each chose a cocktail dress to wear to ur wedding?
    yes : (39 votes)
    75 %
    no : (13 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    614 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I think your idea is a good one. I’ve seen this often at weddings and it’s always classy, plus as a serial bridesmaid, I’m sure yours will appreciate the budget-friendly options. Black is so versatile– they probably wouldn’t even have to go to the same store. 


    Everyone will see your girls standing up during the ceremony. They’ll have bouquets and matching jewelry, shoes– that’s all good. Once the ceremony is over, the need for them to stick out is unnecessary anyway.


    Bravo for letting them sit with their friends and family. I’ve sat at a head table with strangers while my SO sat at another table with strangers before. I like your idea much better–that’s what we did too.


    And side note, my bridesmaids wore purple dresses of their choosing, different styles from the same store. All of their jewelry was pearl-themed but different. they had different black shoes. The only thing they all had in common was their hair fascinators. It worked just fine! Good luck!

    Post # 4
    1330 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @stressedbride2be: this is exactly what i’m planning to do also!! dresses at macy’s or jcpennys or whatnot, black tea-length, same color shoes, and similar jewelry etc.. 🙂 i agree with Miss Damask that after the ceremony, the girls won’t need to stand out much anyways…

    Post # 5
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We did this for my brother’s wedding and to make the BMs stand out the bride gave us all matching turquoise wraps. It worked perfectly! Since your girls are wearing purple shoes, maybe you could get them matching purple wraps?

    Post # 6
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    That’s what I’m planning on doing, too.  I’m sure almost all my maids already have little black dresses in their closets, and if they want to buy a new one there are a million options out there.  I just want them to all feel fabulous so they can be their own supportive wonderful selves!

    Post # 7
    1166 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think you’re safe with all black dresses – they will look great, even if they go to different stores. No big deal.

    Same/similiar jewelry and same purple shoes will go a long way to designate them as BMs. I like the PPs ideas: purple wraps and/or matching fascinators (if they go with the style of your wedding) would be pretty. Or you could have them all wear the same flowers in their hair. Maybe even similar hairstyles if they have similar length hair. I wouldn’t worry too much about it, though. It all sounds great!

    Post # 9
    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My sister let us all pick our own black cocktail dresses for her May 2008 wedding. Everyone got their dresses from different places, all different styles on different ladies and I think it looked great.

    Post # 10
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

     First of all, I must commend you on your thoughtfulness. People are right, your bridesmaids do know what they signed up for, but it doesn’t mean they have to break the bank. the ideas for matching jewelry works, as does the idea for wraps, how pretty would that be.

      I’m sure people will know they are your bridesmaids simply by their interaction with you. And YOU will know they’re your ‘maids so really, that’s all that matters.

      Good luck!

    Post # 11
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I should have read your explaination before I voted no.  I actually really like the idea of different dresses.  My 4 girls are about the same height 5’0 – 5’3 and they were the same size so I chose the same dressm but had they had different body types I would have definitely picked a color and said pick a dress. I’m putting a single flower in my MOH’s hair so she has something to set her apart from the rest, maybe you could do that for your girls? 

    Post # 12
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    That is exactly what I did for my girls….including purple shoes!  I got my girls purple brooches to wear as well, with purple bouquets.  They stood out fine, and looked lovely!

    Post # 13
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Also, now that I think of it….I don’t think any of the other guests wore black cocktail dresses at all!  I had a relatively small wedding, so perhaps had there been more guests they would have, but definitely not so many that these ladies would have been overwhelmed.  

    All the girls picked their own dresses (and at least one used a dress she already had), and the “different blacks” thing was not an issue at all. 

    Post # 15
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Assuming they stand up at the front at the ceremony, and you’re having a head table or introducing them at the reception I doubt it will be a problem 🙂  Don’t worry too much.

    Post # 16
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You might want to tell them Forever 21 is a good option for black cocktail dresses :). I think the matching jewelry along with a bouquet will make them stand out just fine!

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