(Closed) Bridesmaids STRESSING me out!

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It seems to me like the friendship is running its course on its own.  It sounds like when you move they aren’t going to keep in touch so just I just wouldn’t say anything. 

Post # 5
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

it sounds like they’re dispensable and that you’d feel more comfortable if they weren’t in the wedding party.  would you have to replace them though? maybe you can just down-size and not replace them?

Post # 6
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think you have the right idea to downsize. Would you still want them to be guests? If you don’t have people you are really close to (who are available to be bridesmaids, i.e. go to your bachelorette party and at least help in the days surrounding the wedding), don’t match the number of groomsmen. Depending on your ceremony, it may not even be noticable that you have different size parties. Remember that bridemaids are supposed to help support you, not stress you out. Do what’s best for you!

Post # 7
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Ohhh!!  I feel ya!!!  2 of my 4 bridesmaids used to be really close with me and we’ve all drifted apart…we all have kids (2 and under) and its hard to keep in touch like we used to before we had kids.  They have done nothing to help with the wedding and have not ONCE called to see if I needed help with anything.  They complain about costs when they KNEW signing up to be a bridesmaid costs $$!!  Sorry, I will end my rant here, I could keep going on, but I wont.

I think you need to think about what YOU want, if they aren’t apart of your current life and aren’t making a point to invlove you in theirs, then I say move on and tell them you are downsizing.  You don’t have to have even bridal parties! 

Good Luck!

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