Post # 1
My wedding is over a year away, my sister (MOH) will be deployed in Kuwait until next year in September, so we’re getting married October 1, 2016. I have 6 bridesmaids lined up, but my groom, who is active Navy and fairly new to Maryland, can only come up with TWO people he actually wants standing by him on our special day. They are both states away, and everytime I suggest a friend of his to stand up there with him to match my six Bridesmaid or Best Man, he says “No, I don’t really think they’re a close friend.” What is a solution here? I don’t want to cut down on my bridesmaids but at the same time I don’t want him to invite friends he isn’t really close with to stand next to him. Thoughts?
Post # 2
It doesn’t have to be an equal amount on either side. If he only wants 2, then that’s what he’ll have, and you keep your 6.
will you have flower girls and ring boys? Make them stand on your husband’s side so it evens it out. 🙂
Post # 3
Just out of curiosity, why are you distressed over the uneven number of bridesmaids vs groomsmen? You can have your unpaired BMs walk alone…
I’m not trying to be mean, I would just like to understand why this is an issue for you. 🙂
Post # 4
First off, thank you to your sister and Fiance for serving our country. =)
There does not need to be even Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen. The bridal party is suppose to only be close family/friends, not “someone needed to walk a Bridesmaid or Best Man down the isle”. I would stop pressuring him to add more groomsmen. Your ladies can walk themselves down the isle and his groomsmen can walk behind him down the isle.
You want to look back at your photos and cherish those close family and friends who stood with you on your day, not try and remember who’s name was the “one guy we asked to escort BM”. =)
Post # 5
It doesn’t matter if the numbers match. What matters is having those important to you by your side.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
The sides don’t have to be equal.
If you’re worried about them being “walked down the aisle”. They don’t have to be. Sometimes groomsmen will wait at the front and bridesmaids will walk down alone. When they exit, the last 4 bridemaids could walk in pairs.
Post # 7
I get it cuz I’m a little OCD myself and love things to be matching and even. But this is your one wedding. Don’t let aesthetics choose your bridal party. Stand up there with the people you love. You won’t regret it.
Post # 8
Very few weddings I attend are exactly even. The last wedding I attended, he had 5 groomsmen and she had 12 (!!) bridesmaids. They walked in pairs for the most part, so after they ran out of groomsmen, bm’s would walk together and I think one of them ended up walking alone.
Post # 9
Not sure why you are worried ? doesn’t matter and you shouldn’t have random males up there just to even it out. I am a UK bee and bridemaids being escorted down the aisle is pretty uncommon so I have always just been used to sitting down with the goom and his GM’s already at the alter then the bridesmaids walk down the aisle before the bride single file 🙂
Post # 10
I just went to a wedding where the bride had so many Bridesmaid or Best Man and the groom only had a few Groomsmen. Nothing looked funny about walking down the aisle or standing during the ceremony.