(Closed) Bridesmaids waiting til the last second to buy dresses Ugh…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I have no advice except that one of my girls waited till the last minute for financial reasons and then 4 weeks before the wedding, still didn’t have the dress, and dropped out 🙁 it was sad. I hope everything works out. Other bridesmaids of mine did wait until pretty late to get theirs but they had it ready on the day. 

Post # 4
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3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FloretteLiz:  I have two girls in my bridal party that are waiting till RIGHT before the wedding because they want to lose more weight and get into a certain size. It is driving me crazy.. and then I feel bad because I doubt they’re going to get into the size they’re shooting for because they’re shooting for crazy sizes… One said she waas just going to order the size so that she’d HAVE to fit into it.!!!!!!!!!!! WTH. I’m not going to be shedding any tears come MY wedding dday when they can’t squeeze in an unrealistic size…

PS: the kicker is that I picked a dress that they look STUNNING in in their own size and they wouldn’t have to lose weight. I don’t understand the obsession. 

Post # 5
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1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry 🙁 Luckily my girls went the week I picked out the dress, so I didn’t have this problem, but maybe suggest meeting you there to order them, all at the same time?

What we did with our guys is tell them they need to order by July 15th, but the real date to order by is July 30th. We did a little white lie, so that they couldn’t wait to the last minute lol (I know, mean of us huh)

 

 

Post # 6
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4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, it’s VERY frustrating, but at the end of they day they have until X day to buy Y dress.  Didn’t do it in time and now can’t get the dress?

BUMMER.  Looks like you won’t be able to participate in the wedding. 

 

I realize that it might not seem that simple, but sometimes it really is.  The girls have known for months about it, and I assure you they don’t need another reminder.  Maybe some of them really don’t want to participate and don’t know how to tell you, which is why they’re dragging their feet.  Whatever it is, it’s not your worry (easier said than done huh?  :)). 

 

They have 17 days.  To brides thats like 3 hours but to regular humans it’s almost a month.  No worries.

Post # 7
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1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@KristenGotMarried:   “They have 17 days.  To brides thats like 3 hours but to regular humans it’s almost a month.  No worries. “

This is sooo true! lol I agree with you, if they weren’t responsible enough to get it after plenty of time and warnings, then they don’t need to be in it at all, it’s their fault!

Post # 9
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3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One thing I’ve learned is that you can’t have deadlines and expectations.  Your expectation has to be your deadline.  Day to day things come up that may need to be taken care of before the dress.  Over 2 weeks is plenty of time for them to get it done.  They could get it does in a day…and it may be day 17!  Don’t sweat…they love you and will get it done!!!

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had similar issues and I had a freak out moment since the deadline changed when one of the girls went to order. They never told me that. The dresses got there in plenty of time but I had to have everyone order 2 weeks earlier than planned. This resulted in me ordering two of the dresses for the girls because they couldn;t get to the store to do it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t want to freak you out, but 2 of my BMs bought their dresses, and the other 2 dragged their feet. Well, when the other 2 went to order, the dress had been discontinued and they didnt have their sizes on the rack. They had to get another dress. I was, and still am, pretty mad. They knew the dress choice for over 6 months. They are 2 of my oldest friends though, so I didn’t feel right kicking them out. Im just going to have to deal with them not matching the other 2.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I have seven bridesmaids (including MOH) and 3 have bought their dresses. I know it’s still super early and I offered to pay for alterations if anyone needs them closer to the wedding but I was/am very nervous the dress style was/is going to be discontinued. I’m struggling with one bridesmaid who is holding off to buy hers until she loses several dress sizes.  I feel bad pressuring her to buy but the dress would look great how she is now too but she doesn’t see that.  So I just have to try to be patient and hope it doesn’t get discontinued.

Post # 15
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Think about it this way – 17 days is more than 2 weeks.  They really do see it as having plenty of time.  As long as they get the dress ordered, you will be fine.  It doesn’t matter if its ordered a month before the deadline or an hour before the deadline.

Believe me, there will be more stressful things to deal with than this!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am speaking from being a bridesmaid in the past….. 17 days is a long time.  they are not understanding all the stress you are under.  I remember being a Bridesmaid or Best Man and the bride told us the date they had to be ordered by and I planned to go on the last day, she finally came to me and told me I was making her nervous and that day I went and ordered it.  They may not realize you are getting nervous.  Dont worry they will get them.

 

Now speaking from a brides point of veiw ……. whay the hell do they wait. My wedding is in 25 days and 4 of my BMs still have not gotten their dress altered!!!!!!!!!!!

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