(Closed) Bridesmaids want to go elsewhere to get hair/makeup done

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hanover Grande Ballroom

What bride wants to be left by their bridesmaids the day of their wedding? I empathize with op, and would be very upset if the girls I asked to be there with me on my wedding day as bridesmaids left me on the most nerve racking morning of my life to get their hair and makeup done elsewhere :/ 

Post # 18
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

clattarulo626: If you agree with TriPaC87,you can’t just agree with one part. If you didn’t give them a choice, then you would have to PAY.

You didn’t make it mandatory, so they can choose to have their hair and makeup done by their friends/regular stylists rather than do their own.

We all know you are upset, but if you don’t want to pay for their hair and makeup, you left them no other choice, other than to do their own.

Let it go. It’s seriously not worth the stress. They will get their makeup/hair done. They will join you. Everyone will look beautiful. You will get dressed together, relax together, have a mimosa together. The wedding will go on.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m not giving my girls an option. I am hiring a hair stylist and a makeup artist to come to our venue to do my whole bridal party’s hair and makeup. It’s costing me $45 per girl for hair and $70 per girl for makeup. I’m willing to pay the cost of this because I don’t want to worry about one of my girls botching her hair or looking out of place because she chooses not to get her hair/makeup done professionally. I know this won’t work for everyone, but that’s what I am doing.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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clattarulo626:  Yeah that would really suck. Sorry you are dealing with this. I’m a perfectionist/detail freak so I am trying to eliminate any of these situations from happening to me.

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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KapOct18:  But she refuses to pay for the makeup artist/stylist of her choice for the BM’s so that leaves them doing their own hair and makeup!  If the bride dictates, the bride pays.

That would be an easy way to resolve this. The OP can tell them she has decided to pay for everyone.

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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clattarulo626:  Well, obviously your bridesmaids disagree with you too!

Check old threads. You will see that the overwhelming sentiment is that if the bride dictates the use of a particular MUA/stylist, she pays.

Post # 25
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Helper bee

I think it would have been nice if they told you that was their plan before you signed the contract, so maybe you could have compromised and planned to go to their salon to get yours done. 

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

OP, you and your bridesmaids do not have to be surgically attached on the day of the wedding. When you are having your makeup done, you’re going to need to keep your face still for the artist if you want it to look nice. So you will all basically be sitting in a room taking turns not talking to each other. It’s not as super awesome as the TV makes it seem. Pick your battles. This shouldn’t be one of them.

 

ps if you dictate then you pay. It is not cool to spend other people’s money for them, which is what you’d be doing if you told them what artist to use and then gave them the bill.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee

I actually gave my Bridesmaid or Best Man the choice to get their hair done by my HMUA. I didn’t force them to do it or pick a style. I agree with 

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julies1949:  on this one. If you dictate you pay. Maybe they said the prices where fine because they didn’t want to sound cheap or they have money issues so they went with someone else who charges less. I mean i get it you want the girls there for support but they are paying so they can go where they want. Only way around it is to say hey I’ll pay or even offer to pay for half and have them use your stylist. 

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