Bridesmaid's wedding gift question

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

adf1520 :  I don’t think any couple should expect gifts from the wedding party who are already spending hundreds, if not thousands to attend the wedding and be in the wedding party.

I would give them a lovely card with my heartfelt best wishes.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding where I’ve had to front a lot of expenses. I still bought a wedding gift, but it was definitely a smaller gift than I give as a regular guest. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I think the painting itself counts as a gift. anything above that is not required.

I think that gifts shouldn’t be expected from the wedding party but unless the couple has said that no gifts needed, then a gift is expected. Also if a member of wedding party does something (hair, make up) to the bride then it should be considered a gift, but it needs to be confirmed out loud.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

The painting definitely counts as a gift and even that is big very generous when you have so many other expenses for this!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

adf1520 :  I honestly couldnt tell you if my bridesmaids got me a gift or not. Them coming to my events was more than enough! I got some nice cards on my wedding day that meant a lot! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I told my wedding party not to, but they did buy them anyway. (They could wear whatever they wanted and I paid for hair and makeup, but they had to pay a couple hundred dollars for accommodation.)

A painting is a great idea – it’s way more personal as well. If you don’t do the painting then a small token gift and a nice card is enough for sure. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

No, you really don’t. If anything the painting is a gift, but I never ever expected a gift from my wedding party! You’ve been extremely generous with everything already – the bachelorette, the makeup, the travel, and all other expenses for the wedding! The painting is such a sweet gesture. I can’t imagine her wanting anything else!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

I did not expect any gifts from my bridesmaids. They spent money on being a part of my day. Especially since you have travel costs, I would say a lovely card with a small gift or handmade gift would be more than generous.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

adf1520 :  wow, you certainly have given enough in time and money!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I would not buy a gift. I would give a heartfelt card. You are already doing and spending a lot on this wedding. Personally I LOVE recieving cards to read in later years. I have saved every card I have ever recieved and the words of a sincere card mean a lot.

I would treasure a card from a friend like you if I was the bride.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

My hairstylist BFF and I (makeup artist) agreed years ago that she’d do my hair for my wedding as a gift. Now that she’s engaged at the exact same time, I intend to do her makeup for hers. These will be our gifts to each other. We also pay each other for these services when we need them, so that does play into it. I’ve either not given an additional gift or else gone in on something with someone else for the other weddings I’ve been in, based on the time and money commitments I had to make to them. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

samael :  This is lovely, and oh so true! I keep and re-read my cards and letters as well! Fiance gave me one of those book cards the morning of the day he proposed, and I totally knew after reading it that it was going to happen sometime that day. 😛 That’s something I’ll keep with me forever, and a card is like what, $5? 🙂 

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