- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Ok, so one of my bridesmaids is getting married this Fall. I married last Fall. She was quite instrumental and gung ho in the details of my wedding, more gung ho than I was to be exact. Fast fwd… she’s getting married. Prior to my wedding, she was to marry in 2012, Winter or Spring and was adamant about these times. I returned from my honeymoon this past Nov and she informs me the day I get back that she moved her wedding up a whole year and now to the Fall because she all of sudden feels Fall is more romantic, i.e “your wedding”. Coincidence, i thought, until i started communicating with her other bridesmaids and I learned that she intends to have a “wedding thats better than mines.” *record scratch* Say what?
So now, she’s tight lipped about her wedding with me and not the other bridesmaids (none of whom attended my wedding) and Im wondering why. Oh, I know…. because its shaping up to look like MINE! arrrgh!
-Save the Date: Same, even down to the color (although its not in her color scheme) to the same pic, pose, and background.
-Venue: Same, exept in another city.
-Bridesmaids dresses: One shoulder, ruffled, fitted dress, satin
-Season: Same, although I know anyone can get married in Fall but she wanted no parts of it until just after my wedding.
-Engagement Party: She expected bridal party to throw her an engagement party, just as mine did, but here’s the thing.. she’s been engaged for over an year. Sorry, wont happen, its not fair to the bridal party.
She’s become quite competitive and I dont like it one bit! “My planner costs 2xs as much as yours did.” Umm.. ok. Yay u? Her parents are fronting her wedding bill. Hubby and I paid for ours ourselves. So I don’t see her point. She tells the other girls she wants to “crush” XYZ’s wedding and they told me. When I mentioned it, she turned Saint Mary and denied it. She told the other girls she wants a bigger ring before wedding. I ask her about that, the Saint Mary routine again. Its becoming apparent that she is competing with me, silently, and Im annoyed to no end. And not because she’s copying but b/c she’s being so phony about it when asked.
My opinion, no competition here. We are friends. And although I’m a quite annoyed friend at this point, if this fakery continues, I am likely to excuse myself from the shenanigans.
Am I wrong? How do I deal? There’s no point in addressing these things (esp me feeling like she’s copying my wedding) with her because she turns Saint Mary every time and denies it all. So it becomes pointless. Should I bow out?