Post # 1
Have any of you brides out there experienced feeling like your bridesmaids/ wedding party didn’t really care about your wedding?
I am asking because my two bridesmaids (my best friends) really seem like they don’t care about the wedding.. I am getting married in two months and I have only talked with them about the wedding several times, and its really only been when they’ve had questions like “what dresses are we going to wear?” and “what will our hair look like?” etc. They haven’t asked me hardly any questions about the wedding planning so far in the past 8 months, and I’m not saying that they need to care as much as I do but I guess showing a little more interest would make me feel a little better.
And I know that wedding parties aren’t mandatory.. but they haven’t asked me about any showers or a bachelorette party yet. And now that its so close to the wedding there really isn’t much time to do any of that now, which is okay but a tiny little part of me wishes they would of asked me about it or offered one.I am going to feel like a huge ass if they did end up planning a surprise shower or something lol.
I don’t even think one of the bridesmaids has bought her dress yet. (I bought all of their jewelry, accessories, clutches, and shoes for them AND bridesmaids gifts) I have asked one of my bridesmaids two times in the past three months if she bought her dress yet and each time she told me no and that she forgot about it, so i finally just gave up on asking her about it again because I feel like I would be nagging her. (and I know she has the money for it, money has never been an issue for her)
I love both of my friends dearly.. and I hope this post didn’t sound bitchy, I just had different expectations from them and I feel a little let down I guess?
How did you brides handle your wedding party stresses?
Post # 3
I’m still a long way from the wedding, so no stress from the wedding party yet, but gosh that sounds bloody frustrating!! Sure, they’re not going to be anywhere near as interested in your wedding as you are, but surely they could at least fake some interest?
I suppose you could have dropped some hints about pre-wedding parties, so they can kinda get away with not asking about that (especially if they’re unaware of the ‘traditional’ bridesmaids’ roles), but I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all of this.
Sorry I don’t have any advice, but I’m sure someone else will! There’s loads of brides with crappy wedding parties.
Post # 4
I feel exactly the same way. My MoH NEVER brings up the wedding (except to say she can’t make the bachlorette party because she has to work or can’t come in early to help me like she thought cause she has to go to FL? ok). One of my bridesmaids skipped my bachlorette to go to a family party in New Jersey because she knew she’d see me this summer, but she won’t see them until Christmas. Umm ok. But I have one bridesmaid that although is too busy with a newborn to help constantly sends me love and support and one that flew in and made my bachlorette so special and is so into weddings that she is prob more excited for me than I am for myself. I guess it’s just hard for some people to care about weddings or other people’s weddings or Idk. I definitely have spent a lot of time crying and feeling hurt (my family is far away too, so I’ve just been doing everything alone lol…I even had to ask my Future Mother-In-Law to come to my dress fitting, so I wouldn’t have to go alone, but…it is what it is, and people do the best they can which sometimes isn’t enough. If anything, I’m the first to get married, and I’m going to be a kicka$$ bridesmaid because I see how important it is emotionally more than anything!
In terms of dresses, send an email saying the place says they will be charging a rush fee if girls do not order by (make up a date). That will get the dresses bought trust me. and hang in there! Im sure it isn’t personal…weddings bring up a lot of jealousy, inferiority, fear of change, etc.
Post # 5
and i semi-organized my own bachlorette (girls weekend at beach) with non-bridesmaid friends..it made me feel a little dumb to do it by myself, but I’m so happy I did it!!