Post # 1
What I have to deal with is nothing compared to some other stories I’ve heard, but I still wanted to put it out there and get some advice. Over the summer I asked all my bridesmaids (6 total) to take a trip with me to go dress shopping. Some of them were busy and couldn’t make it so I ended up bringing the 3 that could. While shopping I found my dress and the 3 girls that came found a dress they all loved and was only $30! I called the 3 girls that couldn’t make it and sent them photos of the dress they all said it was awesome and so I told them I would just get them for them and they could pay me back when we returned from our trip. Well, that was June and it’s now January and only of them has paid me back. I asked them politely when they would be able to get it to me when I gave them their dresses and they both said “I don’t have cash right now I’ll get it to you soon” It’s only $60 but I still think it’s really rude! I sent all my girls an email 2 weeks ago giving them the details they would need and towards the end I mentioned that I hadn’t received the dress money from a few of them. I don’t think it’s fair to all the other girls that went on the trip and bought their dresses, or the one girl who paid me back. Why should those two get a free dress? I don’t know how to go about asking AGAIN without seeming like a b*tch. Neither of them replied to my email. Should I just forget about it?
Post # 3
No way! Don’t just forget about it!
I’d sic my Maid/Matron of Honor on them if I were you. 🙂
Post # 4
Hmm.. Have you given them the dresses yet? If you get them first, hold them ransom until you get your $. Or just talk one-on-one with both girls and say money’s been tight, you really need to be paid back even though it’s only $30. You hope they understand and didn’t think it would be a problem back in June whenthey said $30 was okay with them.
Post # 5
I know you’re tired of having to remind them, and I would mention that. “It might seem like I’m bugging, but since I still haven’t heard back about the dress I just want to make sure you got the original message…etc.” You’re right it’s not fair to just let them off the hook when others paid for their dress, they need to also, if they had not expected that why accept being the bridesmaid? At this point, there is no excuse since you had told them the money was being borrowed, so no miscommunication there. Good luck, I hope you get a response soon. But I would keep trying.
Post # 6
Yeah, they were all about rushing to pick up their dresses from me and just happened to not have cash! I tried the “moneys been tight” thing with one of them a couple months ago and she still hasn’t paid me back! I don’t want to bring it up when we’re hanging out because 1.) It will be awkward and 2.) I think they should be responsible enough to know they need to pay me back! Especially since one of the girls that hasn’t paid me back had me buy a $200 dress for her wedding! SO frustrating!