(Closed) Bridesmaids who couldn't attend the bachelorette party…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Only one of my bridesmaids could attend my bachelorette party – the others live out of state. No problem. Them flying in for one night would have been expensive and inconvenient. They were there for the wedding – anything else was just bonus.

Post # 33
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it’s fine. I have two bridesmaids missing mine, because it’s expensive. I get it. I think since they spent $400 attending yours, maybe you could do something nice like pay for her dinner one of the nights as a surprise… just so she knows you are thinking about her. Not necessary, but would be a nice gesture.

Post # 35
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think you should have a face to face with the bride. Clearly she shouldn’t be planning her own bachelorette party, but $900 (even $400) is absolutely absurd! Perhaps you should explain to your friend that you did budget for her party (start off positively and showing her that you care), but that you expected it to be closer to the $400 mark, which is what you know others in your circle have spent before on these types of events. If she doesn’t think there is anything she can do to make it affordable for you to come, then don’t go. You can’t just make money appear out of thin air. 

Post # 36
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Definitely do not feel bad about it – they should understand! I have one Bridesmaid or Best Man who likely won’t be able to attend since she’s from the US and while I would love her to be there I obviously understand! Spending $1200 in flights within 2 months is A LOT to ask!

Post # 37
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


wow i would not go.i think thats alot money for a batch party.dont feel bad at all.they should feel bad for doing something you cant afford.


whatever happend to a few girls going out on the down for the night or a spa day?

what is with the weekend get aways brides want these days.its getting out of hand imo.

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