(Closed) Bridesmaids without dresses. What to do?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sounds like you need to start being more blunt.

If you want a specific color and a specific fabric make sure they know it.

I would send a crisp email to all of them listing the exact color and the fabric/style you want along with at least 6-10 choices that would work. Then quote the store’s policy where most of them are available about how long it takes to get them in, and give a clear suggestion that they order soon.

Anybody who’s naked on the wedding day doesn’t get to walk the aisle 🙂

Post # 4
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@kala_way: I concur!

Three months is not very long at all, so I’m not sure you will have very many bridal boutique options at this point without rushing the dresses. 

Pull the bride card!  It’s your wedding, this is what needs to be done if they want to be part of it.  If they can’t hack it, they’re not in the wedding.  I never understood BMs who give their friend/family a hard time.  I thank my lucky stars all mine are rock stars 🙂

Post # 5
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Send them all an email saying there seems to be some confusion about the dresses, and they need to order one of these 10 dresses, in this color, by X day.  Anyone who doesn’t have their dress on the wedding day won’t walk down the aisle.

I understand wanting to make your BMs happy by being a cool bride, but they’re taking advantage of you.  It’s your day, not theirs.  You gave them PLENTY of leeway to pick a dress they like. If they can’t suck it up for ONE day to make you happy, there’s a problem.  I am so sick of bratty BMs, can you tell?? LOL!

Post # 6
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with everyone…put your foot down….it’s your wedding…aggreeing to be in a wedding means buying the dress a bride chooses…with 10 options I think they are being pretty unfair about this….

Post # 8
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

I let all my bridemaids pick their own dresses too but i specified that they had to be black (which helped with the matching color thing), floor length and satin or satin with chiffon and everyone was able to pick out something they liked.  I had a few slackers who didn’t get their dresses until i went with them and was like…dresses need to be ordered today so lets go to every store and get this done. You obviously cant do that but do you have someone located near the other bridemaids that you trust to handle this on your behalf…like a MOH? or family member.  Or you can just say, listen we agreed on dresses, you picked out what you wanted to wear and then I (meaning you) planned according to you guys wearing those dresses so please order them asap.  I mean think about it, most brides dont let their BMs pick out their own dresses (like my SIL had me wearing light pink for her wedding…and im so white i looked like the easter bunny..it was horrible and totally wrong for my body type – but thats what she wanted so I shuit my mouth and wore it for her day).  So that fact that they had any say at all in their dresses should make them happy.

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