(Closed) Bridesmaids won't wear ANY color

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

What do you mean they won’t wear any color? I didn’t realize they had a say. Lol sorry girl but you’re the boss!! Put them in their place or tell them to beat it. 

Post # 47
913 posts
Busy bee

I feel your pain. When I got married, I was also the middle sister who had been bossed around. Back then, I wasn’t very good at asserting myself with my family because I just wanted everyone to get along (you know the middle child peacemaker drill), so I caved and let my sisters choose the dress–in a color I didn’t even particularly care for! In retrospect, I wish I had used this opportunity to be assertive and communicate my own boundaries.

I wish I had selected a color I liked and asked them to please wear it. I say you do that. Pick a purple you like and let them know that that is what the bridesmaids will be wearing because it is one of the wedding colors that you and your wife-to-be have chosen, and ask them to find dresses that they like in that color.

This is YOUR wedding, and they are being extended the honor of being asked to stand up with you on one of the biggest days in your life. If they want to support you, the least they can do is wear a dress that isn’t their favorite color for an hour or two! They are lucky you’re letting them choose the dress style.

Post # 48
4241 posts
Honey bee

Not that you should have to do this, but have you asked them what colour they want to wear? 

I’m just super curious since they seem to have said no to everything! 

Post # 49
7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Your being too nice and overally accomodating. They are just taking liberties now. Time to buck up and stop back down. You are wearing purple. The end. 

Post # 50
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Yikes! I just told mine what they are wearing and what color and they were like “great when can we try it on?”. That’s so hard if they are your sisters. I would just tell them this is the dreas, this is the color you in or out? Do you have a cousin, aunt, Mom, anyone that can put the foot down for you?

Post # 51
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

sorry to hear that you’re going throught this! maybe you should sit down and have a talk with them and explain to them that this day is about you and your wife and their job as a bridesmaid is to suport you through this wonderful time in your life and be there for you. at one point my Maid/Matron of Honor wanted to wear a specific color after the options i gave her and then i changed my mind and she didnt seem to like the light pink color i wanted at first i was going to let her keep the dark color but then i thought about it.. this is my wedding…my day …. and its what i want… so i told her this is what i want you to wear this is the color and lets go looking for a new dress .. the end. its your day remember that!

Post # 52
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

It sounds like you’ve been extremely flexible (not only giving them a colour, but a colour spectrum) and they are being bridesmaidzillas. What do they want, to go nude? You’re completely justified in putting your foot down here.

Post # 54
47209 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ninakins:  That is  beautiful palette! I`m glad your sisters have decided to cooperate.

Post # 55
286 posts
Helper bee

Wow this is just crazy to me. How can they not like any colors?! And youre not even making them wear a specific dress. If I was them I’d be happy I had options. 

Post # 56
286 posts
Helper bee

ninakins:  beautiful color! I’m glad it was sorted out. Your wedding will be beautiful 

Post # 57
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

What I would have done was say THIS is the color I want. Now you guys pick the dress. Since they’ve got the balls to say No to the bride and you’ve accommodated them by picking other colors, then it seems like THEY are running the show. No way. Put a stop to that right now. This is YOUR day. Tell them what you want and that its your wedding. I don’t know any other bride that would leave the colors up to the BM’s. You are a nice person and they are being too picky! They shouldn’t even have a say in the colors in my opinion. good luck OP. You can do it!


oh sorry! Didn’t notice that this issue was resolved. I loooove the colors. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  ohplease.
Post # 58
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - SLS Las Vegas

ninakins:  can you please dont ever delete this thread? Kim Yong Bitchzilla needs to live on in infamy! I’ve been laughing for like 5 minutes! I really want to make you a coffee mug with Mrs. Kim Yong Bitchzilla on it!

Post # 60
451 posts
Helper bee

I’m glad you got it sorted. I was going to tell you to remind your sisters that your wedding day is your day (and your wife’s) and that on that day you and she are princess/goddess/queen, and that on that one day, there is going to be a Purple Reign. 🙂

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