(Closed) bridesmaids/groomsmen gifts, paying

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i’m only buying gifts. we spent $100 each. for the boys, we got one a game of golf, and the other we’re getting a gift certificate, not sure to where yet. the girls i bought their jewelry and i painted them pottery. i would have considered paying for more practical things rather than these things, but they are all brother, fbil, sister, and sil so our parents are going to be paying for things like hotel, makeup and hair, travel, and my mom even bought their dresses.

Post # 4
50 posts
Worker bee

when i was a Maid/Matron of Honor this past summer, I paid for:

-my dress ($135)

-my hotel room the night of the wedding (ok, actually my bf paid for the hotel.. not sure the cost.. around $80?)

-shoes (the bride wanted a certain colour and didn’t care about style- i used a pair i already owned)

-travel (gas money, as it was fairly local)

the bride gifted us earrings/bracelet (handmade) and a travel cosmetics bag with victoria’s secret lotion/lip gloss/body spray. nice stuff!

Post # 5
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My fiance and I are renting a B&B and holding our ceremony and reception there. We have the venue for the day before and the day after our wedding, with room for our whole wedding party. So, while we can’t pay for travel, we are providing lodging once they get here. The women in the wedding party have been instructed to find their own dresses – as long as it’s in a cooler shade of purple and is knee- or tea-length, I’m fine with it. They’re also providing their own shoes – as long as they’re silver, I’m fine with it. And I’m totally not fussy when it comes to accessories, but I might end up trying to find something that suits their individual styles. I’m trying to make sure that they will actually wear these items again. As for gifts – I’m not sure yet, but I’ll likely end up getting different things for each person. They’re all so different that I can’t imagine finding one thing that would suit them all.

Post # 6
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Dress for the ladies and $50 off the boys’ tuxes. Also told them they can wear their own shoes (gold, silver, or pink metalic for the girls and any black shoes for the boys).

We didn’t do hotel b/c it was not applicable.

I got the girls jewelry and we also got everyone andom gifts–hair, makeup, hair accessories, glassware, ties for the men, that kind of stuff. The dress was their main gift.

Travel was N/A for us.

We covered more than most people did. I didn’t want them to have to pay to be in my wedding. I felt like i was asking them, so therefore i should pay. I found ways to cut a LOT of corners, though, and in the end, i feel like i did them all a really nice thing. Half of my girls were in college, too.

Post # 7
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ideally I would love to pay for dresses/shoes/hair + gifts but I have no idea how our budget will hold out.

Post # 8
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Because we’re having a destination wedding we are paying for travel and accomodations for our attendants.  We will also be giving them gifts (not sure what those will be yet).  They will be responsible for their dresses/suits and shoes.  As for jewelry… I haven’t decided yet.  I think we will also be paying for the BM’s to get their hair done.

Post # 9
1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m only having 3 bridesmaids and since the bridesmaid dresses are $320, I am paying for $200 towards each.  I also am letting them wear whatever shoes they want as the dresses are long and doing whatever they want with their hair and makeup. 

I think that is all that is required though.  I don’t think I need to pay for their hotel rooms, etc.  When someone is in a wedding party, there is an expectation that there will be certain expenses that they will need to incur.  I’m all for trying to keep those expenses lower rather than higher, but I don’t think its unreasonable to ask them to pay for their own travel and accomodations.


In terms of their gifts, I am planning on getting them sets of pearls to wear.

Post # 10
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are going for just a gift for the attendants…and call us cheap, but we don’t want to spend anymore than $50/per person.  For the guys we’re doing up little bags of goodines that include fun argyle socks, cufflinks and a beer and sweet treat.  For my girls I am giving them a book (a love story that I love…a bit cheesey but I like to read!) and a piece of jewellery, I haven’t pin pointed what exactly…and then a sweet treat of cupcakes or something.

I think when people are asked to participate in weddings they assume that there will be cost associated…at least I do, from my experience. 🙂

Post # 11
1732 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are paying for them to do their hair.  I have also bought them jewelry and decorative hair pins.

I am buying them Coach wristlets as gifts.

Post # 13
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

 They are paying for their own dresses and shoes.  Travel and hotel for my wedding isn’t really necessary because my two out of town bridesmaids have family here that they can stay with.  I’m not sure about jewelry yet.  I bought them some beautiful embroidered and beaded clutch purses in my wedding colors for their gifts. 

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