(Closed) Bridesmaids:guest ratio?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s been really hard to nail down how many people we are inviting… anywhere from 150-180.  I have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man, and Fiance has 3 Groomsmen.  I’ve heard this rule before too, but I think people should ask whoever they want in their wedding party.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

4 bms, regardless of numbers… inviting about 210, hoping for a final of ca 160.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve heard about that before, but honestly it seems silly to base your wedding party on the number of guests. Out of all the things to worry about……

What if you have 100 guests and 6 really good friends/family members? Would you leave out 1 or 2 close friends just because you don’t have enough guests?! I never understood that one.

That being said… I have 6 BMs and just under 200 guests. So I guess I did it right? I asked all the girls before I put my guest list together though. 🙂

Although I do agree… it might be silly to have 10 BMs for 50 guests.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I have way more bridesmaids than I should, but it’s one of those things where my college friends were always just…a clump.  You can’t invite half the clump and not the other half, and I’m not especially closer to one than to another, so I’m having 7 bridesmaids (6 college friends plus FSIL) and 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, and only Maid/Matron of Honor and Future Sister-In-Law will stand up with us at the ceremony.  Fiance has 4 boys including 1 best man and my brother, and just my brother and the best man will stand up for the ceremony.  They’ll all be part of the procession down the aisle, though.

Or at least that’s the current plan; I haven’t actually asked anyone but my Maid/Matron of Honor yet!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t consider it before but it comes out about right. We’re looking at about 175 guests and I have 6BMs.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I didn’t even consider it. Fiance and I each have 4 people standing up with us. We’re only going to have 60-70 guests at our Destination Wedding wedding. The only thing I heard about Bridesmaid or Best Man numbers is that you shouldn’t have a lot at a Destination Wedding wedding regardless of how many guests in total you have. Guess we’ll add that one to the list of ettiquette rules we’ve broken lol.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have 8 total including my bm. I’ve always heard of this ratio but really? My guest count is 100-150

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I never heard of this and wouldn’t see how it matters. It’s not like servers to guests where they attend to them but my ratio is 1:15 for bridesmaids to guests.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it should have to do more with your friendship dynamics and how many YOU want than a proper ratio.  

Me, I had just 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, for 120ish guests.  I would have had trouble picking and ‘leaving people out’ if I went for more. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ive heard of this “rule” I thought it was 1 for every 50… ultimately I didn’t pay attention to it. I’m having 5Bridesmaid or Best Man, Maid/Matron of Honor and Fiance is having 4 groomsmen. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Didn’t pay attention to the rule at all 🙂  Ended up with 6 bridesmaids, although I was trying to keep it down to 4.  Its hard to limit though!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d heard it was around 1 BM/50 guests, but I feel like the trend has been towards more than that.  We have 4 regular BMs, 1 jr Bridesmaid or Best Man, 2 ushers (one male, one female), and 4 or 5 groomsmen (and a flower girl!), and our wedding will be about 130 people.  Guess we went a little over the norm!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That rule’s a bunch of crap. The bride can have as many or as few people stand with her as she’s inclined, the ratios don’t mean anything.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Doesn’t matter – do whatever you want. We’re having 110 guests and no BMs.

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