(Closed) Bridesmaids…Long distance relationships! Eek help!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
193 posts
Blushing bee

My Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs are all out of state aswell. I didnt think it would worry by but they are also in poor cell reception and it has been a nightmare. I went with simple black dresses for the girls. I bought them off a website that allowed them to be exchanged/refunded if not happy with purchase. Luckily they all fit and the girls loved them as they were simple and elegant.

Good luck.

Post # 4
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It is totally doable if you pick a color family or a manufacturer and give them a color/fabric to work with. I was planning to let all my girls pick their own vintage style dress but they surprised me and all like the same one. Since it has to be ordered on-line they can do that themselves. I am a little tiny bit sad as I love the look of mismatched dresses. LOL oh well! 

Post # 5
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have 5 BMs total, spread through 3 different countries! Nightmare! Wedding is in Ireland, I got them to get themselves measured and I bought the dresses in DB. The American girls got to try theirs on before I ordered them but the others didn’t. I just got the 2 Irish girls to try theirs when I brought them home, they will need them altered slightly ( I erred on the side of caution and went a little too big instead of a little too small!) English girl still has to try hers!

I ended up having 3 different dresses, but all the same colour, length and material. If you wanted to have more control about what type of dress they have you could always do what I did. Though I guess if they are all in the same country you can just give them a list of dresses you approve of and let them away to pick whatever they want from the list. 

Post # 6
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The wedding will be in Indiana and FSIL/BM is there. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man will be in DC, Maid/Matron of Honor in NYC, and myself in either Boston or NYC. I plan to spend a day with each of them going shopping for their dress, and beyond that, I included in asking them to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man which days I needed them to be in town for. While I don’t expect them to drop anything to make it, I do really want my girls around me the day before the wedding so I wanted to make sure I made that request up front!

Post # 8
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am pretty sure most, if not all, of my wedding party is going to be out of state. My absolute best friend lives in Arizona (I’m in Ohio), and my two close friends are in Kentucky. The Kentucky friends are driving distance for me, so I figured we could go shopping when they come visit (they’re a couple and I love them both, so I figured I’d have her be a bridesmaid adn he’d be my bridesman! haha). I’m leaning towards just picking a color and telling them to find a dress in that shade or going for something online that they can all easily order. Right now , partner and I are thinking of getting married over Memorial Day weekend, and if I have a bachelorette party, I could just do it a few days before the wedding so my friends would all be here anyway.

Post # 9
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: The castle at stagecoach

have them western union teh Maid/Matron of Honor the money and have her get all teh dresses other wise u may fall victim to wat happen to me…..some bought early then the dress sold out and nto every one had the dress and those who already bought had to send it bak

Post # 11
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010


I went through a case very similar to you, all my BMs were way long distance. After consulting their opinions on some bridesmaids dresses via FB, I made a decision and asked them to get it at their local David’s Bridal.

As far as a bachelorette party, they did not throw me one. It wasn’t extremely important to me anyway. Plus I was already married to my Darling Husband before the church ceremony/reception.

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