(Closed) Bridesmaids/shower……… I NEED HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1112 posts
Bumble bee

Just let them plan what they want to plan. Try to let go of a bit of the control and your overall vision and just let THEM be the ones to shower you with love and gifts that day. Who cares about the theme? It will be okay if it doesn’t match your wedding theme.  In My Humble Opinion, the theme of a shower is not the important part of the shower. It’s the love and support that come together and circle around you, affirming you and your huge life decision.  When you think of it that way…who cares about the centerpieces!? Haha. ๐Ÿ™‚

I know how you feel because I’m a DIY-er too, and a bit of a control freak. Okay, a lot of a control freak. Planning my wedding has taught me not only to be okay with, but to LOVE when other people offer to do things. Even if it’s the OPPOSITE of how I would do them.  Just gotta breathe. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I think you may have lost sight of the big picture. It’s time to let go and be greatful that your bridesmaids are throwing you a shower to celebrate your upcoming marriage. And honestly, the shower style/theme has absolutely no relationship to the wedding style/theme. They are totally seperate events that are planned and hosted by totally different people.


Post # 5
8599 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t say anything. The shower doesn’t need to match your theme, heck no one will probably even remember the centerpieces by the time the wedding roles around.

Post # 6
46596 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You will not be the one who is judged on the taste show in the decor.

You are the guest of honor not the host. Focus instead on how appreciative you are that these women have stepped up as your replacement bridesmaids and are even hosting the shower.

Post # 7
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

my bridal shower was a tea party at the four seasons, it had nothing to do with my wedding theme but I didn’t care! I loved to see all my bridesmaids getting involved and each had their part in it. Just sit back and enjoy being spoiled for the day ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I totally get how you feel…

although, everyone keeps trying to do things in my wedding theme (toronto maple leafs) and I’m worried that I’ll be sick of it by the time my wedding comes…

I would let it go….I’m sure they are doing the best they can, and it might even surprise you what they come up with! 


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