Post # 1
Okay so three of my Bridesmaid or Best Man bailed on me months ago… i found two replacements.
My issue is them planning my shower. I’m not involved at all. They want to surprise me… My mom is helping and has been telling me little bits and pieces.
they want to do a dum dum pop centerpiece……….. ughh it’s killing me… I feel like that’s just kiddish……. I can’t say anything. I’m not supposed to know, and I don’t want to seem ungrateful. I’m not. My wedding is formal.
My theme is wine theme… I’m a major DIY-ER so I wouldnt even care if they spraypainted wine bottles white and put flowers in them. Theres a lot they could do for a reasonable price…
Post # 3
Just let them plan what they want to plan. Try to let go of a bit of the control and your overall vision and just let THEM be the ones to shower you with love and gifts that day. Who cares about the theme? It will be okay if it doesn’t match your wedding theme. In My Humble Opinion, the theme of a shower is not the important part of the shower. It’s the love and support that come together and circle around you, affirming you and your huge life decision. When you think of it that way…who cares about the centerpieces!? Haha. 🙂
I know how you feel because I’m a DIY-er too, and a bit of a control freak. Okay, a lot of a control freak. Planning my wedding has taught me not only to be okay with, but to LOVE when other people offer to do things. Even if it’s the OPPOSITE of how I would do them. Just gotta breathe. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think you may have lost sight of the big picture. It’s time to let go and be greatful that your bridesmaids are throwing you a shower to celebrate your upcoming marriage. And honestly, the shower style/theme has absolutely no relationship to the wedding style/theme. They are totally seperate events that are planned and hosted by totally different people.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t say anything. The shower doesn’t need to match your theme, heck no one will probably even remember the centerpieces by the time the wedding roles around.
Post # 6
You will not be the one who is judged on the taste show in the decor.
You are the guest of honor not the host. Focus instead on how appreciative you are that these women have stepped up as your replacement bridesmaids and are even hosting the shower.
Post # 7
my bridal shower was a tea party at the four seasons, it had nothing to do with my wedding theme but I didn’t care! I loved to see all my bridesmaids getting involved and each had their part in it. Just sit back and enjoy being spoiled for the day 🙂
Post # 8
i hope my post didn’t seem selfish. I just have the FLU and not feeling so well..
Well… I am having a wine theme wedding. i honestly didn’t want a wine theme shower. I didn’t really care what it was. But I have my mom barking in my ear about the centerpieces. I told her I wish she wouldnt have told me because I doubt on the day if i showed up and saw them I would care.
i told my mom not to tell me anymore because then i tend to PANIC. lol
Post # 9
My mom is also complaining because they only met once. (my mom is invloved so its less of a burden on them). two of them are basically deciding on things and leaving the other three out 🙁
Post # 10
I totally get how you feel…
although, everyone keeps trying to do things in my wedding theme (toronto maple leafs) and I’m worried that I’ll be sick of it by the time my wedding comes…
I would let it go….I’m sure they are doing the best they can, and it might even surprise you what they come up with!