Post # 1
So- I have three sisters, and I was going to have them all in my bridal party. I am questioning asking one of them. She is just a B*&%$ and I don’t trust her at all. Right now I am living with her and she steals our stuff and yells all the time. She isn’t a very pleasant person to be around, so we are NEVER home… just so we can avoid being around her. I don’t want to be rude and ask my two other sisters to be in my Bridal Party and not her. I am thinking about asking a close friend to do it instead but I don’t know how she will take it. I know that it is my day and everything, but I would really like to keep the peace. I’m not an argumentative person at all, so I’m trying to avoid any conflict. Is there another low-profile job that I can give her that still makes her feel important but isn’t as big as being a bridesmaid?
Post # 3
Wow! I feel like we’re in the same situation! But there’s a lot of different ways you could incorporate her into your special day: as a reader, usher, someone who hands out programs, etc. You might also think about your sister’s talents; for instance, is she musically inclined? In that case, perhaps she can sing/play for your wedding at some point.
I wouldn’t stress too much about not asking her to be a bridesmaid. Your relationship is what it is, and I for one totally understand what it’s like to have a sister who you just can’t imagine asking to stand by you on your wedding day. If you proceed with kindness, graciousness, and patience, I would hope that everyone would be understanding. And I think it’s great that you still want her to be a part of your wedding–I’d stress that when approaching her and your family. Don’t focus on the fact that’s she’s not a BM; rather, emphasize the special way she has been included in your wedding. B
Best of luck!