Post # 1
I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 Bridesmaids. Well, my bridesmaids and I got into an arguement and now they wont be in the wedding! I won’t get into detail about the arguement but it’s so petty and stupid. Now I have NO bridesmaids and my sister who is my Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant and due a week before the wedding!
I’m SOO upset because my wedding is in September and we need to order the gowns next month in order to be delivered by July and then alterations.
I’m devistated. This is suppose to be the happiest time of my life and EVERYONE is making it terrible for me!
Post # 4
Aw, I am SO sorry! If the fight is as petty as you say it is, why not try to work it out. If these girls are good enough friends to be in you wedding party, it is worth it to take steps to resolve the fight. After all, you wouldn’t break up with your fiance over a “petty and stupid” argument, right?
It may mean swallowing your pride, but apologizing for your part in the fight and talking it out (maybe with a bottle of wine!) could reconsile you and friends.
Best of luck, I hope it works out!
Post # 5
Well I asked them to be a part of the bridal party and they haven’t talked to me since. So I asked them…you know, whats going on? and they come back with ohhh we have kids and whatnot. I dont know, theres more to it, but it just seems like they dont WANT to be in it, and are being forced into it. I dont want to have to BEG someone to be a part of my day you know?
I dont have a ton of friends, so Im not even going to bother asking someone else. I just feel like…UGHHH everythings been soo stressful
Post # 6
so you asked them to be bridesmaids, they accepted. [time lapse] you ask them why they aren’t checking in and they back out? this is odd.
have you made your expectations for them known? i think it is good to get this out in the open early on as your idea of what a bridesmaid should do and the bridesmaids’ ideas of what they should do may not align, ya know?
Post # 7
There are extremely big details being left out.
I had a friend and over the course of her wedding she managed to push at least 4 good friends away. The reasons are various from refusing to take some environmentally consious options, to being whiney and selfish, to blowing up over things that have nothing to do with her.
Not saying you did or do this, but there a heck of a lot more to the story than “we have kids.”
Post # 8
ask your cousins, i am sure they will be able to do it…or if your fiance has any cousins of his….about ur sister being due a week before the wedding thats a tuff one…is there a way u can post pone the wedding until october cause she will at least have some time to recover…its sort of tight with ur wedding…my best bet would be to post pone it and ask your cousins…and if u dont have any that alright too you can just have ur maid of honer not a biggie…hope it helps sorry that u are goign through thiss….
Post # 9
You don’t have to have bridesmaids, you can just have a Maid/Matron of Honor. You don’t need to have even sides, I don’t see why you would want to fill those roles with women you don’t truly feel close to.
Post # 10
I would have the wedding date changed, but we sent out save the dates way before we even knew my sister was pregnant. the whole situation sucks. and i can’t have my cousins be in it because I don’t have any that are coming to the wedding 🙁
ill figure something out, but thanks everyone for the advice and help! I just needed to vent lol
Post # 11
@Karen91602: Sometimes a little time and breathing room are all that are needed. If these are women that you truly want to stand beside you, then reach out to them and help them to understand how important their presence is to you — and that stressing about the wedding and life can lead to petty and stupid arguments.
You’ve still got a couple of weeks before “next month” gets here and dresses need to be ordered. I wouldn’t stress about getting things fixed in time to order the dresses. I’d stress over fixing the relationship with people who are important enough to me to want them to be at (and IN) my wedding.
Post # 12
i’m sorry you’re having troubles with friends.
i think its sometimes hard to remember that your wedding, though the most important thing in the world to you, isn’t that important to everyone else. even your closest friends. people have a lot of other stuff going on, i would try talking to these girls about your feelings and try to remember theirs as well.