(Closed) Bridesmaids…What do I DO?!?! SOS

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t know, I think that’s pretty natural for a woman to see wedding related things and start thinking what she might do when it’s her turn. What do you need them to help you do for your wedding that you can’t get done because they’re having what sounds like normal girl talk?

Post # 5
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, it’s pretty easy to imagine that when you see a lot of options at something like a bridal expo you would think about which one you would choose.

Maybe you are over reacting? They are still helping, right? If they aren’t maybe you can sort of explain it to your maid of honor and have her help keep it about what you want.

Post # 6
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

You don’t need an entourage to shop or do DIY projects. If you aren’t enjoying their company, do those things with your Fiance or go alone. 🙂

Post # 7
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you need to take a deep breath and calm down. Maybe just take it as a compliment that they’re really excited about all the ideas that you’re giving them and they’re trying to honor you in some way. If you’re so bothered by it, have you thought about doing the DIYs yourself? Or, try seriously talking to them about it and explain how you feel. Keep in mind, though, they don’t have to be doing this, they are volunteering to help you. 

Post # 8
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I actaully got extremely pissed off at a bride who told me “who cares, you’re not even engaged!”


I later cried and thought “thanks bitch.”

I mean yeah I’m happy you’re happy and shit but the world need not revolve around your wedding- yes I was dreaming but as PP’s said: it’s common and natural and something that will just happen.

Guess what this same bride does now to me? whenever my wedding comes up it’s “OH GOD- I hate weddings I’m sooo over them” Yeah well as you call tell she’s a real sore spot it was her wedding, only hers and no other wedding is of concern.

What I would have liked: for her to say yeah that’s really nice, and then ask my opinion or for help on picking out something for her wedding. When I say: “I want, or I like, or I would…” she should listen to me just as much as the other way around. You give, and you take.

Post # 9
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Enjoy the bonding time and relax. Just plan on extra time for your projects etc.

Post # 10
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree that it sounds like normal girl talk. As long as your bridesmaids are still doing what you ask of them, I don’t see anything wrong with them carrying on conversations on the side. 

Post # 11
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Even though it’s fun to have the whole gang with you, that’s alot of opinon’s! Try just taking one or two..that you know can get the job done!

Post # 12
358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I get what you are saying but it’s a really exciting time for everyone. Before I was engaged I kept doing the same thing to my brothers Fiance. Her cousin aka other bridemaids acted dumb and said…oh r u like engaged? or something? and looked at my hand. I felt bad and stupid but got the point. My soon to be SIL tried to cover it up and asked questions about my wedding and it made me feel really good. Maybe indulge in their fantasies? Get excited with them and be like..oh I can’t wait til you get engaged and I can help! Then they might come back into focus on you knowing that they will get their chance. Get what I’m saying?

Post # 13
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can understand why you’re frustrated if you’re trying to get stuff done and it’s not getting done, but I wouldn’t get mad at them for this. It’s kinda mean to say that just because they’re not engaged they can’t be thinking about what they would do for their someday wedding.


If you seriously need opinions or work done, and you’re not getting it done with them, don’t do it with them. Just ask, say, one Bridesmaid or Best Man (like your MOH) to go shopping with you. If you want an opinion onl and no girl talk, send an email or FB message out. But if you’re all getting together in a group, and “brainstorming” wedding-related ideas, of course they are going to think about what they want to do for their eventual wedding. 

Post # 16
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@OBXbrideNC:  There’s A LOT of DIY in my wedding so yeah I DO need help


Sorry, but that’s not their problem that you want to do a lot of DIY.  That’s your and your Fi’s problem.  If you need more help than that you can’t make your friends do it.  They can offer.  You can accept. 

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