Post # 1
I asked a good married galpal of mine to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. I am not having a maid of honor because my best friend is pregant and due about a week before my wedding.
So my married galpal, now to be known as bridesmaidzilla, has declared herself Maid of Honor to our mutual friends. I am now considering changing the lineup of my two maids so that its clear she’s not second, even though its going to look terrible in the pictures, because my other bridesmaid is about a foot shorter than both of us, and I had originally had people arranged by height.
She’s also denigrated the $340 bridesmaid dress I bought for her from the J Crew outlet as being ‘last season’– (which it was, but its new and the right color!) — she’s suggested that since we’ll be driving to the venue in our car, that she hire a limo for us instead, so that we could all meet at her home 45 minutes away from ours and go over together???
She also bought the identical style of dress as mine to be worn at the rehearsal dinner. I did not ask for that.
I can’t have people thinking she is Maid of Honor.
What are my other options? Defining roles on the website? Printing a brochure to go with dinner that lists folks names / titles in the ceremony.
I know its completely petty, but I feel like my wedding is being hijacked.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Weddings I’ve been to (I live in England so I don’t know if things will be different) have had an order of service that gets handed out before the ceremony. It just sort of details what is happening so the guests know there’s a reading then the vows then another reading or whatever. Generally the people involved in the weddings are named in a kind of cast list (MOB, BMs, Bride, Groom etc.). I’ve been to religious and non-religious ceremonies with these btw 🙂
Maybe you could have something like that? Have her listed in the ‘cast list’ as a bridesmaid and not as a maid of honour.
Having a cast list on the website would probably be a fair thing to do if you don’t want an order of service 🙂
Post # 4
Are you going to put together a Wedding “program”? If so, they do generally list the bridesmaids names and titles. You can list her as “bridesmaid”.
Post # 5
I would list her as a bridesmaid on the website or program. Why does she have a rehearsal dinner dress for an event 6 months from now?!?!?! Maybe you should change yours without letting her know.
Sometimes people have good intentions or are excited, but it doesn’t come out that way.
Post # 6
I had them listed as what they were on both the website and wedding program.
Post # 7
Yea, I’m definitely getting a different dress and not saying what it is.