(Closed) Bridesmaidzilla???? What to do?

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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    My SO is a bit of a groomzilla sometimes, but when I started lightly teasing him about it, he totally held back. He mostly just really wants to be involved and wants everything, without realizing how much money/work some of those things require. Fortunately he listens to reason πŸ˜‰ – overall he’s just totally sweet and excited about getting married.

    I think a lot of people who come across as overzealous might just be not knowing how to deal with their varied emotions: excited about the wedding + sad to ‘lose’ sister/daughter/friend + overwhelmed by details + jealous of attention/love/finances/whatever … it’s a lot to process!

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    No zillas here. I have a pretty strong personality. Seems mom and dad and sister are pickier than me. But they also let me do what I want to. I get into the most (friendly) arguments with my planner. But I got lucky I guess.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    mother-in-lawzilla…she wants to send out 175 invites, not invite 175, send out 175 invitations.  No worries, she is sure only 60 of those people will come…this makes it difficult to sleep at night, and…ummm…we’re almost 2 years away from the wedding!  I know I know….i need to get over it!

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes, well, um, the plan is to show her a breakdown of per person costs and hope that she understands what a disaster it will be if more than her estimated 60 people come.  We are planning to do about 200 guests for around 10K with a full sit down dinner.  My aunt is a catering mangager, and is doing dinner at cost.  This means we have to rent EVERYTHING!  I’m sure you can understand how quickly rentals add up.  People need chairs to sit in, a plate to eat off of and preferablly some silverware!

    Thankfully, this is not my mother.  My parents are paying for most of the wedding, and we are scrapping away as much as we can. His parents have made it pretty clear that they aren’t offering much, which is fine until she tries to invite 350+ people.  But she has offered to pay for the invitations.  If only that was the spendy part! 

    I have accepted that there will be a few struggles in the process, and I’m trying to avoid too many ruffled feathers.  Money has always been a really touchy subject between Fiance and his parents and they are notoriously unreliable.  However, I will not allow my parents to pick up the tab for 350 of their nearest and dearest.

    In the meantime, I am trying to follow my mom’s good advice.  Try not to worry about it yet.  You have time to talk some sense into her before save-the-date go out. (His parents are also not planners, and want nothing to do with the planning as of now)

    OK…so I have officially hijacked your post..Sorry:( 

    That is sooo touchy trying to get all your girls to find a dress that they feel comfortable in.  Maybe she can be in charge of some additional searches for a dress that would make everyone happy.  Maybe if she can’t find one she will at least understand your dilema. 

    However, it kinda sounds like she justs wants to rain on your parade.  I’m not so sure she will ever be happy with her dress.  I’ll bet my mom would tell me to go with the dress you like, and try not to let her comments get to you!  But I have a really hard time following that advice too, even if I know she’s right.

    How about we make a pact to not let our respective zillas ruin our planning fun πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    At the end of the day it is YOUR wedding and your sister/bridesmaid is just going to have to respect that. You might try gently reminding her. She is probably just jealous and trying to work it out by being as involved as possible.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    lol I think its funny that no one has ‘fessed up about being a bridezilla πŸ™‚

    I’m dealing with another zilla… his name is Mr. RecessionistaBride (aka groomzilla). For so long he’s been like “cool, do whatever” and lately he wants to know everything! I think its because money keeps leaving his account, but he doesn’t know what he’s paying for lol.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    no zillas. i actually tried to be, when my sister/moh said she wasn’t going to spend the night before the wedding with me and she wanted to stay with her date instead, i knew that would happen and i told my fi i would turn bridezilla on her. instead i chickened out and called my mom, made her tell her in a very nice way that i was hoping for a girls night and wanted her to be there with me. maybe i’m a passive agressive bridezilla.

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yes I have bridemaidzillas’s. I also have a drunkzilla and a gayzilla.

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    All of the above including groomzilla

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I have a momzilla.  I have been fighting with her nonstop since Friday.  Over the rehearsal dinner.  Once we get this resolved it will be something else.  I want to elope ;o)

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Ajbbaby – That is a lot of zilla for one wedding!

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