(Closed) Bridesman and Groomswoman.

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do you believe wedding parties should stick with gender roles?

    Yes! Only men should be on the grooms side and only women should be on the brides side.

    No! It's 2011! My MOH is really a Man of Honor!

    Other-I'm not sure really.

  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t think my Fiance is obligated but if I were extremely close with my brother I would expect him to respect that and include him in the party and I would expect him to do the same if he & his sister were close and he wanted her in the party as well.  I personally prefer the layout of all females on one side and all male on the other, to me it just looks better and more matched up.  I think it’s fine for other peoples weddings but wouldn’t want it in my own.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I love the idea of bridesmen and groomswoman… I think it adds a nice extra twist and breaks stereotypes.

    The only negative I can see about them is that the actual person (woman who is a groomsman or man who is a brideman) is a little uncomfortable with the title.  I might also be refering to another thread on this subject, but I could understand if a guy was a little hesitant to be a bridesman and not a groomsman, especially if he thought it was because the groom didn’t want him to stand up with him.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I am PRO bridesmen and groomswoman. Greek weddings don’t do bridemaids/groomsman, but I am honoring a certain circle of friends who have really supported me through the wedding process and have helped me a lot- 2 men are included in that group. They will be included at my “bridesmaids brunch” and at my bachelorette party.

     

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I had a bridesman. He was my best friend and honestly I would highly recommend it. He took care of so much stuff that day for me, since he didn’t need to get his hair or makeup done, he was like an assistant that day and he kept all of the drama away from me. He’s an amazing bff.

    With that said, I also had my DH’s sister as a bridesmaid. They aren’t that close and to be honest either are we, but he felt like it was strange to have all of our siblings but her in the wedding. She tortured me the entire time. LOL

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I commented on the other thread but I’ll comment again (yea! post count). I do not think either side is obligated to including a sibling. I think it should be whoever is closest to you. My DH asked my brother to be a Groomsmen and I was pretty surprised and would not have been upset if he had not asked my brother. I think having groomswomen and bridesmen is really fun. Who says you only want other ladies to stand up there with you. If my best friend is a guy I’m either supposed to leave him out or force my Fiance to take him on?

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    As long as the guy/gal was okay with being a “bridesman” or a “groomswoman” I’d have no problem with it whatsoever. Not exactly the same, but one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man was a very butch lesbian, and wore pants, a vest and a tie, and not even our conservative grandmothers had much of a problem with it (although actually, I think they probably would have been more comfortable if she actually was a he, but that’s a whole other conversation). She technically has all the girly bits, but might as well be a guy. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have no issues with it.  If my 2 best friends had been able to attend, I would have had one bridesman and Fiance would have added his sister to his side.

    As long as it works for all the people involved – it’s awesome. 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Miss Tattoo: My bestie (male) will be who I am asking to be my Man of Honor.

    I love that he will be next to me on my wedding day.  He has been a brother to me and I can’t imagine him standing on my FI’s side when he’s been such a huge positive impact on my life.

    In retrospect, my Fiance just asked the other day if my bestie can come to his bachelor party….I was like NO WAY! He’s mine!  He will be at my party!  Not that this matters, but my bestie is a gay male, he would cry if something was sport related and beer drinking!  And I would cry without him with me!

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @mwitter80: It’s just like a workplace with too much of one gender, you have to mix it up to make it run better!  I’m hoping my bestie will be a huge help with that (I’m positive he will).

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t care either way, but I don’t see the bridal party as being about “sides”. For example, I don’t see the bridesmaids as my ‘side’ that are there just for me. It’s just the aesthetic that appeals to me, girls here and guys there. I see a wedding as an opportunity for everyone to come together, not for my FH to refuse to include my only brother as a groomsman on his “side”.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee

    To be honest, this is one of those things that I have never seen in real life….but ive seen it mentioned tons of times on wedding sites.

    However, I don’t have a problem with it. I think you should ask anyone you want-male, female, alien, whatever.

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