Post # 1
Fiance really doesn’t like the idea of not having any bridesmaids. We’re having a really small wedding and decided to have a Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. Maid/Matron of Honor was going to be my long-time friend (since we were 8). I asked her to be Maid/Matron of Honor and she accepted. However, since then, communication has been limited. She’s pretty much cut all of her friends out of her life and is stuck up her boyfriend’s @$$ 24/7. We live 3 hours apart but up until I got engaged, we kept up communication really well! We talked at least once a week on the phone, texted, facebooked, etc. But right after I got engaged and asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, it all stopped. I know I haven’t done anything to make her mad. And from talking to some mutual friends, it seems like she’s fallen out of touch with them (and they live in the same town as her!). So I’m not counting on her being there for me. She hasn’t had any interest in wedding planning, not even dress shopping. She didn’t even respond when I sent her a picture of my dress! (She later told me she got it, after I asked her if she’d received the picture, but no comment on if she liked it or not.)
So to make a long story short, she’s fired and my only sibling, my big brother, is going to be standing up with me. My brother and I aren’t close but he’s my brother, my only brother, and I want him to stand up with me. He and Fiance are good friends and he and I have gotten closer since Fiance and I got engaged.
Fiance would prefer that my brother be his groomsman in addition to having a Best Man, if I really want my brother in the wedding. But I don’t have any friends who are going to be willing to travel 12-14 hours to where the wedding is going to be.
Have any of you had “bridesmen” or a “Man of Honor”? If so, please share pictures! 🙂 Fiance is really concerned with the pictures and the symmetry.
Post # 3
i didn’t have men on my side, but i have seen others on here that have and i thought there was nothing wrong with it!
Post # 4
To be honest I wouldn’t do it, are there any other female family member you can use? aunt, sis or something. I have seen it done and it looked awkward in pictures. This issue came up on here before if you do a search.
Post # 5
I have seen weddings with men on the women’s side and women on the men’s side. Trust me, on the big day you would rather have people up there that you care about then picking someone to look good in the pictures. My brother in law had his sister as his maid of honour, and the pictures looked fine. She wore a black outfit and had a corsage so that she matched the groomsmen more than us. I think it’s really nice that you’re having your brother in your wedding!
Post # 6
We are having a groomswoman lol. My Fiance sister is standing up on his side. I already had 3 bridemaids (my sisters ) and he had two groommen and we wanted to include her so it work out perfectly. She will be wearing black but with a yellow accent, like ribbon ( the girls dresses are yellow) and she will havea corsage not a bouquet. Very similar to what brianalaura said. I wouldnt worry how it looks or what people think. Its ur wedding and if you want your brother standing up with you GO FOR IT.
Post # 7
My sister had a brideman at her wedding, but there was also a groomswoman so it balanced out. (I had to include this picture because it was between official shots and looks like we’re all arguing or confused)
Post # 8
HECK YEAH! I have a “man of honor” and 2 other men who will be standing on my side with me (and their wives, respectively) so I’ll have 3 guys and 3 girls. If the bridal party is supposed to be your biggest supporters, who cares if they have penises!