Post # 1
Bees, I’m really disappointed over my hair trial and starting to get annoyed over the whole wedding planning thing! Let me explain – I am getting married in the middle of nowhere France. Here is a picture of the neighbors so you get an idea of how in the middle of nowhere we are:
You are probably thinking, what do sheep have to do with a hair trial? Well, I don’t have a lot of options for vendors, and my Mother-In-Law has choosen them mostly because I don’t live in the area. Going up to Normandy to get things done is pretty much a weekend event with taking the train both ways, so I’m thankful for all the effort my Mother-In-Law has done. But last weekend I had a hair trial with her normal hair stylist, and I showed him two pictures of what I had in mind – one for how I want the front to look and how the back should be up if it rains, and another of how I would prefer the back of my hair. I am not putting anything in my hair because I have a lot going on with my dress, but I at least want my hair to be interesting despite that. Here is what I showed him:
And this is what I got:
hair style 1
And then I told him I prefered that my hair was down, and this is what he did:
My Mother-In-Law said it was pretty and it’s passable I guess…but it isn’t what I asked for. There is no crossing in the back, the curls are made way to tight which makes my hair look shorter than I want (both pictures have bigger curls, or more wavey), and he parted my hair to the side which doesn’t look good at all because my hair cut is angled in the front, so one side looks too short. He spend two hours doing nothing like the photos I gave him. And then ran out of time to fix it when I tried to correct what he had done. It’s going to be a pain to find someone else, so I think I’ll just make another trial appointment with him – but it’s really annoying, because going up there is taking away at least one weekend for me.
Sorry, I’m not really expecting much of a response…I just needed to vent somewhere about hair with others who care are much even though it’s kind of rediculous to be this worked up over hair… My wedding wil be beautiful, and I know it means a lot to my Fiance to get married where he grew up….but it’s times like this I miss being in California where I know I can get exactly what I want and have more control over the whole process. I miss my old hair dresser!
Ok, end of 20 minute rant over hair….
Post # 3
oh how frusterating. and comming from someone who is in ‘middle of no where alaska’ i know exactly how hard it can be to find a good hair dresser. I think the second option with your hair down is getting closer to what you actually wanted. I don’t know what type of hair you have or how long it is but both of those pictures show very long very thick hair to start with, so if your hair is shorter that might be part of the problem?
That being said I would just keep finding pictures and have another go at it. If you are not from the area can you talk to some women who are who have gotten married or have needed formal up dos lately? They might be able to point you to a better stylist
Post # 4
@globalmargaret: Thanks for the sympathy 🙂 My hair is little longer than shoulder length when it is straight, which is why I didn’t want tight curls. I thougth about extensions even, but I don’t think this stylist is very experienced with them…otherwise I figured he would have reccommended it after looking at the pictures. There is one other salon in this town…so I could go over there…Otherwise I could find someone in Paris to do it, but it would be a bit excessive to have them come up to Normandy that morning and I’d prefer not to worry about the transportation issues.
Post # 5
is there another stylist at that salon?? I would DEFINITELY want another trial.
Don’t worry about having bridezilla moments like that, though. I almost cried during my makeup trial because i hated it so much. I told my m/u artist and she fixed it right away! I was very specific about what I did not like about it, and she was able to adjust it to what I wanted. Worst case scenario, you could start looking at hair blogs and do your hair yourself! I
Post # 6
Actually the guy owns the salon, so I would feel awkward asking someone else to do it…
Post # 7
That is so frustrating. Don’t feel like a bridezilla over this. It’s your big day and you want to look your best, so if you’re not happy, you have to express that.
I think both attempted styles look very messy. Although I do think that the front of the second one is much better than the first because he left more hair out near your face. I guess you have 3 options:
have another trial with this guy and try to communicate to him what you didn’t like, (or find another style you like which you think will be easier for him).
Try the second salon in the town.
See if any of your guest are good at hair and see if they would do it for you.
I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. But don’t give up on your dream wedding look. You deserve to look gorgeous on your day.
Post # 8
@Au Jardin: hmm that does make it difficult. I’d be frank with him and tell him what you did and did not like!
Post # 9
Ooooh yeah… that definitely isn’t what you asked for! Unfortunately (and I hate doing this too) you really have to speak up when it comes to hair and makeup, otherwise they think you like it when you are silently thinking “Ummmm… no.”
Be as specific as possible with what you didn’t like and book another run through for sure. If all else fails, start Googling DIY hair tutorials!
Post # 10
The second picture IS getting closer… But definitely isn’t there yet… I think getting more pictures and trying the other salon are both good ideas
Post # 11
I had a similar experience with the ONLY hairdresser in the middle-of-nowhere Catskills town where I got married. I wound up using a hairdresser in a town an hour away and paying a lot more to have her drive to the wedding site, etc. Keep looking. You’ll find someone better.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2012 - the Columns Hotel
Honestly, I’d diTch that stylist. Try a trial with the other salon, or bring someone with you, or practice and learn to DIY. But you don’t want to be unhappy with your hair on your wedding day, and in pictures- that’s not bridezilla, just plain sensible!
Post # 13
Honestly, this guy didn’t even come close to what you asked for. If I was you, I wouldn’t bother with another trial: I’d just find a way to do it myself & not have to stress. When I got married I was too polite to tell one of my vendors off & now every time I look at my photos I’m a bit disappointed.
Post # 14
I’m sorry that your trial didn’t go as you had wanted it and he should have tried harder to give you EXACTLY what you wanted! BUT bear in mind, my mom was a hairdresser for 20+ years that although the curls looked tight at first, as they relax they will look more like what you asked for…a tighter curl at the beginning of the day will relax and expand to look more like the pictures you had by the time of the ceremony…so long as he doesn’t plaster it with AquaNet. LOL! Goodluck! You’ll look beautiful no matter what, but I hope you get it all straightened out, so your hair is just what you want!
Post # 15
Maybe he really isn’t great at updos? I would try to find someone else to do it before you waste more of your time!
Post # 16
Are you good at styling your own hair? Sometimes I feel like I know how my hair works and I can make it look the way I have in mind better than the stylists. Maybe if you practice a few times, you can get it the way you like it? Or maybe a friend/family member/bridesmaid (someone attending the wedding) can help you practice to get the look you want. Oh, and there are some really good Youtube tutorials out there that might help if you are hair illiterate. Good luck!