Post # 1
So my wedding isnt for another 5 months….But I fee like I’m going to snap on someone! The only way I can describe whats going on is no one listens to me!! Shouldn’t the bride (and the groom) get the final say in things?? Or shouldn’t all the decor and outfits be what we want!! I feel like its been a battle lately with so many things. People are always trying to get my to sway from my decision on how I want things, like flower colour, bridesmaid dresses and so on. I honestly want to snap on the next person who says “well maybe it should be this, or do it this way!” Am I being unreasonable, but so far almost all my ideas have been shot down, and its getting frusterating and I feel like I’m going to turn into a “bridezilla”
Have any of you had this moment??? Or what was your moment of rawrness?
Post # 3
Everytime anyone suggests i’m being too picky or asking for too much (I’m really not..I just want a little help here and there and so what if I don’t want to see any lilly’s in my bouquet!!!” lol…then I kinda loose it…which is probably not helping.
Post # 4
We are just barely into our planning stages, and honestly I think most things are going to go smoothly – his family is the one contributing money and so far ALL of my ideas mesh with theirs, so I don’t foresee any problems there.
But I think my bridezillaness is all going to come down to my mom. She dresses like a Hot Topic goth half the time and can’t get it through her head that I’d like to see her in something elegant and somewhat cohesive with the rest of the bridal party on that day – when else am I gonna get a chance to take really amazing photos of our whole family together in nice clothes?
We’ve already had one near-blowout argument about it. I’m hoping when I take her shopping I can get her to come around, though – I’ve seen a bunch of great “MOB” dresses that aren’t dowdy and I think once she tries a few of those on she’ll realize I’m not asking her to be matronly, just elegant.
Post # 5
We got engaged on vacation and I lived in my bubble for that week. Once I got home, I was a mess for a week. I completely lost it on my mom twice in that first week cause I felt like I was disappointing her. Since then, she keeps all comments to herself and, honestly, that might make things worse because now I don’t know what she’s thinking and I can’t incorporate her ideas (many of which are great!). She’s just too afraid to say anything because of my blow-ups the first week.
Post # 6
Hahahah I’m not even sure mine counts because it was SO JUSTIFIED! (at least to me lol)
8 months into planning, 4 months before the wedding, after invites are printed and addressed, after many agreements that it was a no-kids wedding…Future Mother-In-Law calls to ask if we can make an exception for 2 kids who are distant relatives that neither I/FI OR Future Mother-In-Law had ever even met!!! When Fiance said absolutely no way, that we can’t be rude like that to the other parents (who all already knew no-kids and had agreed to it) and we didn’t want kids anyway, then Future Mother-In-Law said “well, put Bearlove on the phone, I can convince her”…I heard that and FLIPPED OUT. I was screaming in the background “hell no! no kids! NO KIDS! THIS IS INSANE YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING 8 MONTHS AGO. NO F*CKING WAY AM I GOING OVER THIS AGAIN–NO F*CKING KIDS!!!! Your mother is being SO RUDE to ask us that!!!” I think that was definitely my biggest meltdown lol.
I was equally mad over the central issue and the idea she thought she would be able to manipulate me after Fiance said no and reminded her this was an agreement she had no problem with for 8 months. The craziest thing…the parents Future Mother-In-Law was making this big deal about actually had no problem finding a babysitter, they hadn’t even said anything to Future Mother-In-Law, she just took it upon herself to assume they wouldn’t find a babysitter and wouldn’t come.
Post # 7
I had exactly ONE bridezilla moment whilst planning my first wedding (according to my mom). And that was due to XH being a total groomzilla. What happened was that we picked out invitations and were going to pay a friend of my dad’s to do the caligraphy for the addresses. As it turns out, there was some kind of issue between the ink, pen tip, and envelopes and dad’s friend couldn’t do it. That left us with the option of finding someone else (and paying a ton of money to do it last minute), handwriting them with regular writing, or printing the labels. My first choice was just to write the darn things and get it over with. When XH found out he went off. I specifically remember him saying “That looks like something from a white-trash wedding. If you’re just going to handwrite the addresses then don’t even bother sending them to my family.” Lovely, right? I then had to go back to my parents and and explain that if nothing else, his family’s would have to be done by a professional caligrapher.
Ugh….and he wonder’s why he’s an ex….
Post # 8
Apparently, when planning my first wedding (thank God that didnt’ work out) I asked my mom to lose 100 pounds before the wedding. I don’t remember that, but it’s possible.
I just asked Fiance when I have turned into a Bridezilla, so I could honestly answer this post. With this wedding, I had a meltdown a few months ago. My mom didn’t want to throw the shower because “MOB can’t host – it’s improper.” OK, whatever. So Fiance asked his mother if she was planning anything. She said no because “She didn’t throw a shower for FI’s SIL.” Well, I flipped. SIL and Brother-In-Law got married in Alaska and chose to have an at home reception a few months later. My wedding is 3 hours from FIL’s, so an at home reception is not called for. Plus, Fiance and I are both the youngest of 3, so our whole lives, we’ve had to deal with the “I didn’t do it for your siblings before you, so I can’t do it for you” which I think is total BS.
However, if my sister and Brother-In-Law, who are graphic artists, don’t get my invites to me within two more days, I might have another Bridezilla moment.
Post # 9
My Bridezilla moments came every time my mom would nastily tell me I was being a Bridezilla. And for the record, i was NOT a Bridezilla, just because I wanted Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses in a certain color or a certain dress? I was doing my own research and figuring it out for myself (mind you, asking my BM’s opinions on EVERY dress and staying within an agreed upon price range and body type-style) and people would laugh and say, “Oh you want your girls in *matching* bridesmaid dresses? Being a bit of a Bridezilla aren’t we?” So that POed me.
But the thing that really set me off was when, a week before the wedding, people who had RSVPed yes let me know they weren’t coming RIGHT AFTER we’d paid for them in the final count to the caterer. It was really annoying, especially since one couple was my cousin and her fiance who are getting married in a few weeks and are therefore going through this whole wedding planning process and should know how absolutely inconsiderate that is. (The excuse was that her boss from corporate was coming into town that week. That’s fine – I guess that must be stressful. But then just check the decline box. Don’t make me shell out hundreds of dollars for you and then bail!)
Post # 10
invitations. invitations turned me into a briiiiiidezilla! But I had tons of issues with them and ultimately didnt send them out until 5 weeks before the wedding, talk about freak-out mode!
also when my sister, who people often think is my twin, wanted to wear her hair in the same style as me for the wedding because “well I’m not going to be wearing a veil and a wedding dress!” uhhhh no!? She is way more photogenic than me anyway!
with like 5 weeks to go I’m sure the bridezilla moments will increase for me…
but hey, we are the brides! its allowed!!
Post # 11
The groomsmen went to our ceremony location (a city park) to set up the chairs and PA system, that the rental company was dropping off. An hour later and there was nothing dropped off. We’d called the company twice and were assured they were running late but on their way. THEN I get a phone call…and this guy goes “Uhh…we’re at the address but there is no one home.” THEY WERE TRYING TO DELIVER 250 chairs and PA system to my house! Which is a tiny teeny thing with no yard. I was so mad. And then I had to give them directions to the park. I had some words for them and called the week after and got a discount when I paid my bill.
Post # 12
Ugh mine have been with family trying to pressure us to doing what they want…inviting extra people, adding kids, etc. I am ashamed to say I have actually caved in some instances, because I didn’t want to deal with it any more!
Post # 13
My official bridezilla moment was when I bought my….THIRD dress. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Post # 14
I screamed and got at my mom because she asked my STEP-sisters if their daughters could be my flower girl without even consulting me. I had already chosen a flower girl and ring bearer and wanted to keep the wedding party small. I was so mad when my mom told me they had already accepted but ifI didn’t want the girls to be Flower Girl she would let them know. I had to agree because I didn’t want any bad blood between me and my step father’s family but I am still mad at my mom and don’t want her to help me in anything.
Post # 15
@MissCalifornia: This is for Jocember to show her my MOB dress.
Post # 16
I think I had a pretty calm and happy planning time, but there was one thing that I bridezilla-ed about on the inside (I ended up just being a pushover to keep the peace!)
I told my ILs that I wanted DH’s nephews to be ringbearer and junior groomsmen, but since we didn’t have any young female relatives, I did not want a flower girl. I think of it as sort of a consolatory role to involve a young relative/godchild/other child with equally close relationship. Since no one fit the bill, I told them specifically we were not going to have one.
Without asking, Mother-In-Law asked her random friend’s grandaughter (whom I’d never met!) to be our flower girl, and promised her she could pick out her own dress and do whatever she wanted. I love my Mother-In-Law to death, but it still makes me seethe a little to type it, haha–I’m still bitter. I did NOT want this flower girl, but of course I can’t crush the dreams of a 7 year old girl Mother-In-Law made a promise to. There was also a time when MIL promised she could wear a tiara (which is so not my taste) but thankfully, that ended up being a no go.
It ended up being okay, but on the day of the Flower Girl and her mom kept randomly coming into the bridal suite without knocking while we were taking pictures and interrupting with a million non-essential questions. I’m glad at least that my ILs were happy, but I remember I was pretty annoyed at the time that Fiance wouldn’t just say no.