Post # 1
Okay so I NEED HELP BEES!
The other day my Maid/Matron of Honor & I went to go pick out dresses for the bridal party…before doing so (when I asked the girls to participate in the wedding) I asked if there were any concerns or suggestions regarding the dresses that they were to where.
The only reponse was to please be budget concious…sure no problem!
with that being said i am getting some beef about the dress i picked for them (one girl in particular) …any suggestions
Post # 3
@1Mita: What specifically do they have a problem with about the dress? Colour? Fit? Fabric? Length?
Post # 4
Uh, you’re gonna need to give a little more info before people can give you advice. “Getting into a beef about a dress” can mean a whole lot of different things.
Post # 5
“whats up with that neckline…oh no thats not going to look good on me”
“is it long is it short….which one is it?”
The dress is from DB Style number F12284
Post # 6
Nice dress! I would just be firm and let her know. yes this is the dress you chose. Maybe butter her up with how much you can’t wait to see how pretty she looks in it!
Post # 7
Sounds like she doesn’t like/doesn’t feel comfortable wearing the dress. It happens. Comes down to a couple of options:
1 – Stick to your guns. Simply tell her that’s what you chose, as a PP said. Try to understand why she has an issue with it, and if it seems she’s really unhappy, give her the option to step down. But do it nicely. (“I’m so sorry you don’t like the dress. I’ll understand if you decide not to be a bridesmaid; maybe you’d like another role that doesn’t require you to wear the dress.”)
2 – Reconsider. Maybe send two or three options to all the BMs and let them vote, or let them choose between two or three styles in the same color/fabric.
What NOT to do: Stick to your guns without giving her an out, or being angry/resentful that she doesn’t love your choice. I wouldn’t want to force anyone to wear a dress she’s not comfortable in. (I wouldn’t want that done to me.)
No need to let this become the source of unnecessary drama. You can choose not to be a Bridezilla, and also not put her in a position to be a Bridesmaidzilla either. It’s just a dress, after all.
Post # 8
Tell her to go try it on, if it really looks bad then you might want to make a change but that dress looks like it would be flattering on most people
Post # 9
the top is cute but I hate the bottom. That’s just my opinion I’d voice my concern if asked, and maybe ask if we can have them shortened right to the knee but otherwise, just wear it.
And it IS cheap… so maybe you can use that when saying well it might not be the best but it is cheap so I had to keep that as my priority. Or something like that.
Post # 10
What size are your BMs? My sister is a little thing up top and she still had some “spillage” in this dress. Maybe talk to your BMs and get specifics about why they don’t like the dress. If they are important enough for you to ask them to be in your wedding party, I would imagine that you want them to feel comfortable and confident on your wedding day. If they aren’t if WILL show up int he pictures.
Post # 11
I would ask her to try it on and if it doesn’t look good, try and find something else. You want them to look pretty as well right?
Is there an option to bring all your ladies in together? My sister had 9 BM’s. We all went in together, tried on several dresses and all decided on one together. As a petite big chested girl, that dress would not look good me. Sorry. But I would be willing to try it on and then ultimately let the bride decide.
Post # 12
Thank you sooooo very much ladies…everything was lovely…
My decided that since she is also going to be my future sister in law it was just best to make everyone happy.
so with that being said i asked ALL my girls to choose the dress of their liking with just some limits”
Length: knee/ tea
Thank you again for such wonderful advice.
Post # 13
Glad it worked out. I was kind of looking at that dress wondering how it might be for a bustier girl, but if they can choose their own, that’s perfect!
Post # 14
Oh cool!! What an accomodating bride you are:P Will you let us know what everyone picked??
Post # 15
@1Mita: That is what I am planning on doing too (picking color, length and material)! I am definitely specifying material, because I think the same color looks different on different material, and it irritates me!
Post # 16
You know what the whole thing is actually turning out to be not stressfull but FUN!
The girls got to meet n greet and we had a light lunch afterwards we are still in the dress picking stages but at least all drama is out the window and all is well!