Post # 1
A friend of my fiance has volunteered to marry us. I know him in a casual manner–not really that close. As much work as I have put into the ceremony, I feel that I want to take control of writing our ceremony also. I know the feel I want for the ceremony and how I want it worded. I think the friend has already started writing some of the ceremony. I dont want this—I have already written the ceremony and I want to give it to him to follow. Is that wrong?? How ddid you handle it if you wrote your ceremony. Give the person doing the ceremony the script and say read this? I feel stuck!!! Fiance thinks I am being a total control freak!
Post # 3
It’s your ceremony so it’s up to you what’s said. Unless your Fiance told his friend to go ahead and write it, he shouldn’t have started to write it without consulting with you first. We’re hopefully being married by my cousin and I wrote the whole ceremony. I plan to let her know about it after she confirms everything with me.
To answer your question, I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla or a control freak. You’re being a bride!
Post # 4
thank you, thank you! I thought I was the only one who wrote out her entire ceremony. Have not been able to sleep—worrying about him saying something at the ceremony that is totally crazy!!
Post # 5
I don’t think you’re being either. I would just talk to the officiate and see if he minds you writing it. If he does, then it becomes a problem, but not before 🙂
Post # 6
thanks–we are meeting with him next month! i hate all this stress
Post # 7
It’s your ceremony, I think you have every right to have the power to control how it is carried out! Totally not bridezilla, especially if you already spent time writing things the way you want it! Maybe have your fiance gently explain that although you are so greatful he will be marrying you, you have already taken a great deal of time to write your ceremony and you would like him to follow your plan of action.