(Closed) Bridezilla or Not? Friend Getting Proposed to at your Wedding

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Who do you side with?

    No way, it's my day...do your thing on another day

    The more the merrier, get engaged at my reception!

    Other - I'll tell you what I think in the comments

  • Post # 16
    1805 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016


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    shortbridetobe :  Honestly, that video was so beautiful – and it made me cry. The good things about it:

    • They waited til the end of the night – so the proposal didn’t take away from the bride’s reception at all (at least where I come from, the bouquet toss is near the end of the night – right before the bride and groom leave).
    • The bride was in on the proposal.
    • She’s obviously so over the moon happy for her friend.

    Now – I realize that marriages are super-happy occasions, and often a guy will get the idea that he should propose while he’s at a wedding. But, I think you should have some courtesy and discuss with the bride and groom to see if it’s ok. If they want to get engaged the next day, or the day they arrive – that’s just fine – but NOT at the wedding, and not at the reception – unless you have the bride and grooms ok.


    Post # 17
    9385 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I’d be annoyed, for sure.

    Post # 18
    2937 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    I would have to knock a biotch out. 


    Just kidding, but no, I would honestly be pissed. I grew up with seven siblings and tons of cousins, I have never had just one day that was about me (shared birthday parties with a close cousin, shared my HS graduation party with my sister who graduated college the same weekend, etc.) and I want my wedding to just be a celebration of us for once. It is tacky and rude IMO. 

    Post # 19
    2688 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    PizzaBride :  In relation to that show

    Nicole is bat-shit crazy. Larry isn’t even close to proposing to her. She is obsesed and frankly he looks annoyed by her.

    Respect would dictate they find another occasion to get engaged… especially NOT at her reception. Do it on your own time and dime!

    Post # 20
    10315 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Wouldn’t bother me really. I would just be excited for my friend. The again, it takes a lot to bother me.

    Post # 21
    718 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    shortbridetobe :  I love this idea, of the bride pretending to toss the bouquet but then walking over to give it to a specific guest who then gets proposed to on the spot…heard about it before and wished so badly that BF and I were ready to get engaged when my sister’s wedding happened! She and I are so close, I was her Maid/Matron of Honor, and it would have been nice to have my parents there and such since I live 6 hours away from all my family and will most likely have to share the news over the phone when it does happen!

    I normally wouldn’t want a public engagement, or even one in front of family, but the idea is so sweet and I would have been looking great (lol) plus there would be a professional photographer there! Win, win, win!

    Post # 22
    178 posts
    Blushing bee

    I wouldnt mind if we were very good friends (with proposer or proposee) and I was given a heads up.

    Post # 23
    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think depends on when and how it’s done and if you’ve got the blessing of bride and groom if you insist on doing it in front of the crowd

    Post # 24
    1166 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I would have been annoyed but I doubt I would have said anything (I also believe my guests would have known it was inappropriate on their own and wouldn’t have made a big deal about it since proposing to someone at someone else’s wedding is incredibly rude).

    The way I look at it, while I’d be happy for them if they were friends, I would be annoyed because they are “celebrating their engagement” on my dollar (I paid for food, drinks, the venue, the flowers, etc., and I did so to celebrate my own relationship, not so you could have a beautiful place to propose where your friends were together… I’d feel put out). 

    Post # 25
    949 posts
    Busy bee

    My very close freind, who I adore, sort of did this. But not as drama. 

    She was a bridesmaid in a wedding (I don’t know the bride it was a childhood friend of her’s). Her Fiance proposed to her the day before the wedding. It was just the two of them, not the rehearsal dinner or anything. 

    My friend kept the ring on her right hand during the wedding the next day, so as not to steel the bride’s thunder. The bride and groom (who knew the proposal was coming) were both totally pumped! No one felt slanted. It made everything feel even more romantic. 

    Post # 26
    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

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    FutureMrsKuncho :  what, because only one person can be glowing and happy at any given time? What a ridiculous notion. 

    Id be over the moon if one of my friends got engaged at my wedding. Their happiness can only add to mine, not take away from it, and I’d never ever be so self centred as to think that they need to put their happiness on hold because of some selfish idea that only one happy event can be celebrated at any given time.

    Post # 27
    3026 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    You want to try dresses on with me? Cool. Let’s do it. You want to do a public proposal during my wedding? No.

    Unless it’s something the bride/groom have given permission for then it just shouldn’t be done. Even then, if you’re asking a bride/groom, it could put pressure on them to allow you even if they aren’t comfortable. Even if your plan was to do it in front of the whole family…then get the whole family together on your own expenses. 

    Post # 28
    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2018


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    shortbridetobe :  I voted no in the poll but after seeing that video.. I am bawling my eyes out and I changed my mind!!

    Post # 29
    531 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I answered no but after watching the video maybe. The bride obviously knew and had okay’ it. 

    Post # 30
    3234 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    FutureMrsKuncho :  my god! Can you imagine the nerve to be GLOWING at someone else’s wedding? How dare she!


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