Post # 1
I am the calmest most patient person I know, but I’m about to go Brideziilla on my fiance’s two best men. We only have 18 days until the wedding (two weekends left) and they haven’t planned a bachelor party yet. I want to make sure he has fun so he doesn’t look back and feel like he missed out. Also, my fiance wants to take the guys paintballing as a thank you for being in the wedding. Originally they were excited about the idea- they have been wanting to go for over a year but neither of them have the money- but now they won’t answer his messages. My fiance is hurt and frustrated that his best friends aren’t stepping up.
We haven’t asked either of them to help with anything wedding related other than to rent suits (we picked the cheapest one available). Best man #2 complained about spending $100, but then spent three weekends driving his gas guzzler out of town to go mudding. I even took care of getting the flower girl dress so best man #1 didn’t have to worry about it (the flower girl is his daughter).
My sister (MOH) and I are about ready to plan a bachelor party ourselves, but we don’t really know what we’re doing.
Any advice? Sympathetic comments? Similar stories?
Post # 3
with all the drama surrounding bachelor parties, does he really care if he has one or not? sounds like he or his friends could care less. so count your blessing you aren’t on here crying about him screwing a stripper before you wedding (emphasis added for shock value) you can go paintball anytime.
let it go.
Post # 4
I think you would only make things worse if you tried to step in. Think of how your Fiance will feel (and the teasing his friends will give him) if you had to plan his bachelor party.
Maybe they are gonna surprise him? But yeah, I would just let it go. Focus on the wedding, the bachelor/bachelorette parties are totally optional imo. I likely will not do anything for mine and I’m totally ok with that.
Post # 5
Are there other groomsmen? Maybe mention something to them to get the ball rolling.
Post # 6
My Darling Husband did not have a bachelor party. He doesn’t feel as though he missed out.
Post # 7
Our groomsmen were like that. They left everything until the last minute and then were unable to book any of the activities that they had originally planned. They didn’t even go to a bar! Just ate BBQ and played video games. Fiance said he had fun but I was quite angry over it…
Post # 8
Talk to your Fiance about what he wants. I personally don’t think a bachelor party is a necessary thing, but it’s your FI’s opinion that counts here. My man really wanted one so that he didn’t regret not having one. I’ve planned a college friend’s bachelor party remotely – that was actually a lot of fun, but the groom had asked me to plan it.
Post # 9
Stay out of it. Your Fiance can deal with them. Since it’s his party for and with his guys I think it would only be drama for you to involve yourself. He is perfectly capable of talking to less-sucky friends about plans. You can always go paint balling with him after the wedding.
Post # 10
I agree that as hard as it is, you really should stay out of it. It sucks but maybe they will step up their game. Fiance has to be the one to deal with it though. Guys can be so flaky!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
im dealing with the same issues! we have one gm who lives out of town who was totally gung ho about everything and now we cant get a hold of him. his best man keeps blowing off the bach party…to the point im like you im about to step in and ask one of the other gm to plan it…my Fiance didnt have one the first time he got married i want him to have a great time. and as for the stirp club issu…seriously?..let him go if he was gonna screw a stripper he would have cheated on you by now! but yeah i feel for you!