Post # 1
I am having one Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man. I decided that as their gift, I would purchase their dresses for them. I feel really bad because the wedding is in exactly 2 months, and we have nothing for the BM’s as of yet. We were originally not having a wedding party, and then just decided to at the last minute. We are having a Destination Wedding in Mexico.
Am I also expected to purchase their shoes and jewelry? What about hair and make-up on the day of?
Post # 3
If you require certain hair, make up, shoes, or jewelry, you should purchase it. If you’d prefer not to purchase it, just tell them to take care of it.
You can say things like wear black shoes. Then they can just choose a pair they want to wear. But if you say you must have this shoe, you should be paying.
Post # 4
Do you have dresses for them? If not, Modcloth! Since it’s just the two of them and one is a Maid/Matron of Honor and the other a Bridesmaid or Best Man, you almost don’t need to worry too much about “matching” – just make sure their basic color/style choices complement one another. So maybe this means that they can use shoes and jewelry already in their closets, unless you had something else in mind. Hair and make-up is up to you – it’s always nice to pay for it for them (esp if they’re strapped for cash with travels for the DW), but I don’t think it’s necessarily required. If you’re feeling thrifty, consider paying for just their hair and having them do their own makeup (some girls prefer this anyway), or vice versa.
Post # 5
I dont think you would have to,s ince you already are buying dresses….I would only worry about shoes and jewels if you want SPECIFIC ones. i told my girls any black dress shoes are fine ( long dresses).. i bought them each diff jewels but they paid for their own dress.
As for hair and makeup.. i have arrangements that makeup is free just a tip- but they pay for thier own hair.
Post # 7
I agree with the other girls- if you let them pick out their own accessories, you don’t have to pay for them. Otherwise, you really should (particularly because they’re paying travel expenses to get to your wedding, I wouldn’t put more of a burden on them).
Post # 8
If you’re requiring professional hair and makeup, you’re expected to pay. If you want specific jewelry, you pay. Shoes can go either way – if it’s black shoes or silver shoes or something most women already own (or can get a lot of wear out of post-wedding), I’d say you don’t have to pay, so long as they can choose their own shoes in the specified color. But if you want something really specific, or a weird color, you should pay.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone! I think I have my answer. I will have to look at the modcloth, I’ve never heard of it. I’m somewhat open as to what they wear. Im not even sure they will have the exact same dress, but it will be the same color. Same for shoes. I just want them to be the same color. I’ll figure out what I can afford to pay for and just let them know what I need them to purchase. Maybe I will just ask them what they want to do for hair and make-up. I don’t really need them to look a specific way, just pretty! Thank you all so much for your replies!