Post # 1
I’m usually pretty good on knowing whether or not I should bring a gift, but I’m unsure about this one. One of DH’s close friends got married several months ago in an immediate-family-only ceremony/dinner. She’s and her husband are now having a huge celebration with all of their friends and family. They are both from Jamaica and they have reserved a resort there, but guests are paying for their own rooms and for all food except one dinner. We’re excited to go, but between flights, our room, and food the trip will cost about $2000. Should we also bring/send a gift?
Post # 2
TGold: If you’re going, I’d give them a nice card and maybe a small sentimental gift, like a $20-30 picture frame or something. If you’re not going and didn’t give a gift when they got married, I’d give a gift now, whatever you would usually give a close friend for their wedding.
Post # 3
I would not bring a physical gift it would be very annoying for them to bring all these Gifts back. Give a card with some cash or jst a card.
Post # 4
Etiquette would say that the two expenses are not related. Wedding gifts are based on your budget and the closeness of the relationship. You are not in any way obligated to attend a destination wedding reception, where costs and logistics can be prohibitive. And wedding gifts are supposedly from the heart. Gifts are most properly sent ahead of time, in any case.
Post # 5
Thanks, I think we’ll go with a gift card. We’re definitely going (already bought the tickets), but I come from a “cover your plate” culture and I wasn’t really sure how it worked when you’re not going to the actual wedding and it’s destination.