(Closed) Bring gifts to reception or send to couple’s home??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll:
    Bring to reception : (14 votes)
    17 %
    Send to the couple's home : (68 votes)
    83 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1897 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Oh my gosh!   I would never send a gift to the reception.   How odd.   We live 4 hours away from our wedding site, so I hope people don’t do that to us! But honestly, I wouldn’t address it.   It’s too awkward to address and if there are gifts at the reception, well, cross that bridge when you get to it.

     

    And if I was giving a card with a check, I would bring that to the recption.

    Post # 4
    Member
    990 posts
    Busy bee

    I think people are going to bring the gifts that they wouldnt be able to send or feel comfortable sending like gift cards or money. Not too many people go out and buy a toaster or kitchen aid mixer anymore and they wouldnt want to haul it. if there are a lot of those gifts, arrange for your Maid/Matron of Honor or MOB to have them sent to your house.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It may be a regional thing but at all of the weddings that I have been to, the guests ALWAYS bring the gifts to the reception. My family especially think it’s rude to show up to a reception “with nothing in your hand”.

    Having said that, if I am buying something off of an online registry, I usually have it shipped to the bride’s house. In that case….I bring a card to the reception so I don’t show up empty-handed. If I go into the store and purchase a gift, I usually wrap it and take it to the reception.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I would send it to their house. Thats what I hope people do for us. Who really wants to worry about gifts at a wedding!

    Post # 7
    Member
    581 posts
    Busy bee

    I ship my gift and then I usually give a card with cash at the reception (for their honeymoon).  I’ve lugged gifts from the reception to the couples home and it’s such a pain.  But ultimately, you take a gift as it is presented. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1553 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I always thought the gifts were sent to the bride’s home (if they aren’t living together before marriage…otherwise to the couple’s home), whether it was cash or an actual wrapped gift. 

    The reason for sending gifts to the home is so that the bride and groom don’t have to worry about what to do with gifts during the reception and can just leave the reception and not worry about having to packing up all the presents, some of which are likely fragile, afterwards.  It also prevents worrying about gifts getting stolen…and it does happen.

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Send gifts to the couple’s home!

    When you register, your online registry gives an option to have guests send to an address specified by you (though for privacy, the sites hide the address).

    Post # 10
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Interesting.

    I didn’t vote b/c I don’t know the ettiquette.  But I always thought that guests brought gifts/cards to the reception unless the guests (or couple) had to travel to attend the wedding.  I never heard of anyone doing anything else, but I’ve never really asked or paid attention 🙂

    Post # 11
    Member
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I didn’t vote either because I don’t know what the technical ettiquette rule is, but personally I prefer having things sent to my home. Especially if the couple doesn’t live in the town where the wedding is, it makes more sense. It means there’s a lot less to transport and load into cars at the end of the night. But on the other hand, I think sometimes people feel bad walking into a wedding empty-handed.

    Post # 12
    Member
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @JamaicaBride: That’s exactly how it is in my area also. I would love for people with larger gifts to send them to the house though.  That’d be alot easier on us. Plus, I want to open some early. 🙂

    Post # 13
    Member
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think you should definitely send it to the couple’s house.  It was so much easier to for us that way.  Most people did that but a few did bring us gifts, big ones.  Lugging the gifts in our car the next morning was so annoying, it was the last thing we wanted to do.

    Post # 14
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    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is a regional thing, bc at almost all the weddings I see, there are gift tables.  Seriously!

    If it is breakable, I do prefer to ship it to the couple, and bring a nice card with a card from the store their gift is from inside and letting them know it is being shipped along with good wishes!

    Post # 15
    Member
    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Whoops! I’ve brought a gift to a reception once. I guess I see why that could be annoying. In my defense, it was my first wedding. Now I just do cash so it’s not an issue.

    Post # 16
    Member
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I’m with the “it’s regional” crowd.  There are gift tables and card boxes and every wedding I have attended.  I would feel terrible shwoing up empty handed to a wedding.  That said though, it’s also pretty unheard of to give an actual gift for the wedding, that’s for the shower.  It’s about 99% commonplace to give the couple a card with money or a check at the reception.  I know what the almighty “Etiquette” states, but let’s face it, etiquette is not everlasting, it changes through the years.

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