Bringing children optional; should I include # of seats reserved on RSVP?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
9141 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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hisandhernandez19 :  I don’t think it’s accurate that most people include the number of seats. That’s actually a new development that some couples use to try to prevent people from adding more people than are actually invited. In your situation I would skip it and just use the standard wording.

Post # 3
47427 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

some options – all assuming parents and children are invited by name (fallback would be “and family”)

1.  __ out of __ guests will attend.(You fill in the second blank.)

2. We have reserved ___ seats in your name


___graciously accepts                  ___ regretfully declines
      ____ number attending

3.  Number of guests attending _______


 You might want to think about adding a spot for them to indicate the ages of the children,or asking hem to indicate if they need high chairs, booster seats , or an extra chair for a baby carrier.

Post # 4
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

If you put there are x amount of seats they could bring all and sundry to your wedding, I’ve known people just add names to rsvps in the past for friends wedding. My friend invited her aunt and uncle, her aunt rsvp’d and added her three kids names to the rsvp as well as theirs.

Therefore I’d put the kids names on the invite so it’s specific and they know exactly who is invited. 

Then on the rsvp get them to indicate whose coming and if they need a kids meal high chair etc…

Post # 5
4928 posts
Honey bee

Most invitations I’ve ever received have not had X seats reserved on it.  In fact, I’m not even sure any.

That is pretty much a modern invention by people who don’t want children at their wedding as a workaround to try to be less rude about saying “No children” since it would be rude to actually say that on the invitation.

Since you are inviting children, I would not put that.

The traditional way is you address the invite to everyone who is invited by name (so children, too – not just “and family”).  They reply back with however many people will be attending.

Post # 6
104 posts
Blushing bee

I would add something like “please let us know if your children will be attending with you”. I agree that putting down a number of reserved seats would actually seem like they have to and are expected to attend. 

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