(Closed) Bringing the wedding gift to the bridal shower–is this done?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is appropriate for a shower gift?
    must bring separate gift than the wedding gift : (13 votes)
    72 %
    you can bring the wedding gift : (5 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Generally a separate gift is given, but if I’ve already given a shower gift I usually spend a little less on the wedding present.  Also it is unusual to get cash for a shower.  Part of the shower is opening the presents and it would be pretty boring/awkward if everything was an envelope of cash. 

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve been to a shower for a bride who had a Destination Wedding and she actually received a lot of cash shower gifts but these were from family members who specifically couldn’t make it to the Destination Wedding. I brought both her shower gift and her wedding gift to her bridal shower and this couple had preferred cash/honeymoon gifts over actual registry gifts as well. I got her a nice decorative item from her registry for her shower gift (and when I gave it to her, I specifically said this is her shower gift) and then a small card with cash and indicated that this was her wedding gift so it doesn’t get lost in the shuffle at the Destination Wedding itself. The bridal shower was very very small so I knew it would be easy to keep track of the card with money.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @violet25:  Yeah a gift card for something like that would be nice!  I’ve also had items shipped to their home and printed out a picture in a card before. 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    You can break it down this way. Decide how much money (Since that is what the bride wants) you (or other family members…whoever is having confusion about the gifts) plan to give in total (shower and wedding). Lets say for example, you’d to like to gift 300.00 in total for wedding and shower. You can give $50 or $75 for the shower (either in cash, or in the form of a spa gift card) and then the remainder for the wedding. You’d want to gift a smaller amount for the shower. And you can calculate it similarly with gifts (75.00 shower gift, 225.00 wedding gift…or whatever the amounts may be). But yes, you should bring a shower gift that is seperate from the wedding gift.

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